Why do we need a healthy self-esteem?

To feel that your life is meaningful and to enjoy it. A person with high self-esteem may doubt the meaning of life but someone with low self-esteem sees no meaning at all. Therefore, the key to a healthy self-esteem is to have a positive meaning in life, following which you will experience more positive emotions about yourself and others rather than negative ones. With a healthy self-esteem you feel satisfied and happy that helps you to achieve your goals at a pace that is comfortable for you.

Remember what kills relationships!

• Swear. Better to laugh it off, keep quiet or ignore it. • Be offended for no reason. And if there is a reason, there is nothing to pout and torment with silence. • Blackmail with sex or food. This is your direct responsibility, as well as maintaining order in the house. • Point out to a man his shortcomings. Don't itch, don't try to fix it.

Sexting

Sexting is a frank correspondence with the exchange of erotic photos / videos. Serves as an excellent prelude, warms up interest between partners. For example: 1. "Buy bread, sour cream and toilet paper." 2. "Call when you drive up to the house - I will meet you completely without clothes." Do you feel the difference? Here's what to write to your husband! More often turn off the hostess and turn on the mistress. And then he will run home!

Develop!

Man always wants to develop. But wanting and doing are two different things. If a person does not grow, he degrades. And point. That is why it is so important to constantly develop in your business. If we don't put in the effort and make it harder every day, we degrade. The more you listen to yourself and do what your inner voice tells you, the more harmonious you will be. Have the courage to admit to yourself what you want and what you don't really want. And also the courage to be true to yourself. Then you won't need any other motivation.

The point where you are now is your choice.

Why do I have such a profession? Such a relationship? The answer “because it is my choice” deprives us of the right to complain. This is clear from the example of relationships. Here you choose a partner for the best qualities, but do not tolerate his shortcomings. It turns out that you love only that part of a person with which it is convenient. But you chose everything. Life is the sum of your choices. Respect them.

Personal boundaries.

If you have no personal boundaries, you can't have YOUR OWN life as well as be yourself. At any moment anyone can invade your world and stay there as if he were at home without taking his shoes off. In addition, you won't be able to realize your potential and reach yourself the way you dream. After you will build your personal boundaries, your strength, your own thoughts, your real feelings, your future will come to you and you will see it with your own eye.

Thoughts and feelings for two

Expecting a partner to be almost like ourselves internally: he must love, hate the same things we do. But all people are completely different. At the beginning of the relationship everyone notices only good in the partner but eventually the differences begin to irritate us. This is a big mistake. It is important to see the differences and learn to find solutions that will suit both.

Women's desires are the engine of relationships.

Women's desires are perhaps one of the main stimuli for development for men. Men are arranged in such a way that they themselves can be content with little. If, in their opinion, everything is fine in their family and at work, then they can “get stuck” for a long time on a small stable salary, live with their family in a cramped apartment, drive an old but beloved car. But if a woman wants more and can convey to her man how much more comfortable he himself will become from these changes, then the hidden mechanism will start. In an effort to meet the desires of his woman, a man himself will begin to grow and expand his capabilities.

How to leave with a child from her husband.

Plan ahead. Save money for the first time. Look for any opportunity to become more independent. Borrow money from friends, relatives. If you have nowhere to go, rent an apartment, contact women's help centers. Never hesitate to ask for help. Especially in the case of domestic violence. You definitely need support. Consult with a lawyer. Take the advice of a competent divorce specialist: what is the best thing to do so as not to be a loser. Get ready to get through the tough times. Know that you will succeed. A woman recovers faster after a breakup, especially when she herself is the initiator. Try to concentrate on a free and happy future for the sake of the children.

Kairos is an opportune moment to complete a task.

Such tasks cannot be tied to a specific time. They can only be performed when the right conditions have arisen for this. Kairos play an important role in modern time management. They allow you to successfully work with those tasks that do not depend on you. To plan kairos, separate categories of tasks are created in the organizer. Here write down those things that need to be done at the appropriate time. For example: Order a new debit card - the next time I go to the bank.

Rule of three.

For those who aren't good with numbers or can't do nine things a day, Chris Bailey, author of My Productive Year, came up with the rule of three. It says that to achieve productivity, it is enough to do the three most important things every day. Instead of wasting your energy and attention on a couple of dozen items on a checklist, just pick your three most important tasks for the day and focus on them. The next day, choose three more, and so on. This way you will stay focused. The same rule can be applied to setting goals for the week, month or year.

Emotional manipulation.

Fear is a wonderful tool for manipulation. If you scare a person enough, you can induce him to do anything. Or, conversely, you can make a person give up his or her actions. For example, you can convince people that they will go to hell in which they will suffer forever for certain actions. In terms of common sense, such a threat looks absurd, but at the level of emotions it can be considered very seriously.

Keep a diary.

By the way, the practice of keeping diaries was already known in ancient Japan in the 10th century when court ladies kept their records of life and love in "sleep books". So how does a diary work? It's a great if not the best tool for REFLECTION - getting to know yourself, your feelings and emotions. It's the best way to safely EXPRESS yourself, that case when pen and paper are your best friends. Paper will accept everything. Your anger, your sorrow, your love and your craziest ideas.

Parting is rubbish?

One of the most common difficulties of all times and peoples is the suffering at the break or end of significant - and not so much too - relationships. Everyone has their own "half-life" of strong affects. Someone will be furious for a week and will calm down that they will start a detective investigation in order to still try to catch the missing person and ask about the reasons for his behavior. Someone will “chew” their rage and anger, someone will blame themselves for everything and plunge into the suffering of their “worthlessness” for a long time. The most difficult thing about parting is when we feel like a “part” of the other who has left us.

How to train your brain to focus on POSITIVE.

We all tend to register negativity. This is called negative bias - an adaptive feature of the human psyche, which was especially necessary for survival. However, now this task is no longer urgent and negative bias just HURTS us. But you probably know that our brain is EXTREMELY malleable. This means that we can "reconfigure" these ancient settings quite successfully. For this purpose we need to do the following. 1. Recognize negative bias and note that moment when you start feeling fear and anxiety. 2. Switch to pleasant memories as if you're shifting your mood. 3. And now stay in that mood and try not to go back into your anxieties.

To be alone with yourself.

Why it can be helpful? Exceptionally alone with yourself, you can really sort out your thoughts, slow down, take a rest, immerse yourself and hear your emotions. There are many more opportunities to feel your own uniqueness when you are one-on-one with yourself. When we are alone, we hear our BODY MUCH better. We feel our reactions, listen to our emotions and THIS allows us to find our source of power, to take control of ourselves and overcome crises and difficult times.

How to stop wasting your life on vain expectations?

We all tend to live in expectation of love and acceptance. But one of the stages of growing up is accepting the fact that it is stupid to waste your life seeking approval, understanding and warmth. When you improve your identity, find the strength to know yourself, discover and understand your desires and accept your peculiarities you become YOU - unique and real.

Do you want to change something in your life, but there is no support from your loved ones?

Is it worth wasting time and energy constantly seeking approval for your actions and decisions? If this is YOUR dream and the decision is measured a hundred times and weighed two hundred times, WHY do you need the approval of others? After all your life belongs only to you and only you are responsible for your decisions. Not only have you found no support, but you also face angry hissing and unreasonable criticism? Stop, listen. Don't protest, don't make excuses. Use this negative attitude as an extra incentive to move forward. The main thing is to believe in your strength!

For those who want to get married.

Why are you getting married? Here you are - what do you expect from marriage? You can dream from different positions: fullness and emptiness, attempts to get rid of problems or intentions to increase the joy you already have. Do you feel like a failure because you do not have a partner? Do you feel like “the best years pass”, and no one appears nearby? Do people around you ask questions about children, marital status, or having a friend that makes you nervous? If you answer yes to even one question, most likely, your desire to get married is largely based on emptiness. This is how strange alliances arise when a woman rushes to the registry office, as if jumping into the last car of a departing train - it doesn’t matter who turns out to be a fellow traveler, as long as they take her away from here as soon as possible.

Sensitive people - who are they?

SENSITIVE people are biologically predisposed. We are all born with completely different perceptions of the world. Some are more sensitive, some are like a rock, and some are somewhere in between. If two children, with different sensitivities, grow up in equally unbearable conditions, the sensitive one may develop a mental disorder, while the other will be left with only unpleasant memories. That’s why you can't compare people who have gone through even similar experiences, one could be completely unaffected by the experience, while the other could completely ruin his life.