How to save a marriage?

1. Start with yourself. Don't try to change your partner. It's impossible. Honestly and calmly analyze: what are you doing wrong? For example: you control every step of your husband, you criticize him. 2. Learn constructive dialogue. Replace reproaches with "I-statements". Not “You didn’t throw out the trash again, how many times should I remind you!”, But “I get upset when house cleaning agreements are violated.” 3. Take an interest in his affairs. Let's be honest: do you know how your spouse lives? What does he dream about, what career plans does he make, how does he imagine the perfect day off? Talk to each other, share experiences and spiritual secrets. It builds intimacy and builds trust.

How to receive gifts?

Remember how mistresses behave who are given apartments / cars: - flirt - Give intimacy - a passionate night of love - Released to freedom - Receive gifts! What do most wives do? Correctly! They do not trust and constantly control. Instead of “I’m waiting for you, my love,” they shout into the phone: “Hello, where are you?” They forget about flirting, about the female condition, they do not know how to enjoy life and give this joy to their man. Men are naturally unemotional! They need recharging with positive emotions from women. They are charged and delighted, looking at our satisfied eyes, get high on how we enjoy. They are attracted to women who know how to have fun! From themselves, from their man, they motivate him to succeed, "blow his wings." They want to be close to such a woman and throw everything at her feet!

Habit tracker

Celebrate your desired habits daily to bring them to automaticity. In a month, you will be able to track the progress of working with the habit, understand how comfortable the mode you have chosen and understand whether this habit suits you or not.

Our internal resources.

People have huge internal resources, but rarely use them. With the help of meditation, you can calm down without pills. If you listen to your own intuition, you can avoid danger and even death. If a person does not know what hidden talents he has, you need to remember what he admires most in other people. Similar skills can be developed in yourself.

Me and my shadow...

All the things we don't want to be, don't want to have, don't want to live with and don't want to allow into our own lives form our SHADOW. Denial can't make your shadow go away, it just puts it out of sight. ⠀ The word "no/rejection" pushes the unwanted away from us but it cannot eliminate it. From then on, the rejected lives in the shadow of our minds. ⠀ Remember: Little children firmly believe that if you close your eyes, you can become invisible. In the same way, we believe that it is possible to free ourselves from half of our "kind of not my qualities" without noticing them in ourselves.

Practice to develop your uniqueness.

Each of us is unique, the main thing is to discern your own characteristics. Take a pen and a piece of paper and write down what you think makes you different from others. What is it about you that interests people? Write about your personality and appearance. What do you like to do, what are your interests, what can you do better than others. Our experiences are also unique. Describe your most memorable experiences. What books or movies inspire you? How have your views on life, on politics, on people, on society, on business, on money, on yourself been formed? Who and what influenced them? This exercise makes you feel real.

What causes emotional burnout.

This is a long process caused by an imbalance between the expenditure of energy and its normal recovery. To regain your former energy, you need to figure out what exactly is consuming your strength in vain. The list can be long, but it's worth highlighting a few: ▫️any chronic overload; ▫️working for the sake of work; ▫️worries about the past, worries about the future; ▫️toxic environment; ▫️empty chatter, meaningless get-togethers; ▫️lack of communication with nature and yourself; ▫️routine life, lack of any significant events What should you do? Minimize the impact of all of the above on your life as much as possible.

Enemies of female energy.

The strength of a woman is in her energy and lightness. These things block this ease, forcing you to lose the most important resource: • Stress • Bad habits • Emotional dependency • Fear and anxiety • Suppressed emotions • Someone else's responsibility • Struggle and resistance • Unfinished business • Toxic men

How to decide on a divorce?

When should you get divorced? When all attempts to improve the situation were in vain, and you simply do not see any prospects. Make a plan of action: what and how you will do next. For example, if you have to move, you need to take care of a new place of residence in advance. Think about how to tell the children the bad news. Realize that divorce is not the end of the world, but the choice of a better life for you! Just compare: are you ready to suffer in an unhealthy relationship that destroys you? Or do you want to be a happy girl filled with positive energy?

Tolerance for shortcomings.

You do not idealize a man, you do not require him to get a star from the sky. You calmly accept your loved one for who he is. But the trouble with many spouses is that they are not ready to look for common ground. Only insults and manipulation are used: “You are such / such ...”. Unwillingness to put up with the shortcomings of another speaks of the immaturity of feelings.

Fear of public speaking and how to deal with it.

Trembling hands, halting speech, parched throat — sounds familiar? Today we will analyze some simple and effective tips that will help you feel more confident in front of public. Come up with a detailed performance plan, it will help you to keep the structure (avoiding empty talk) and save time for the performance itself. Remember 2 simple numbers - 80 and 20. Women look more feminine if they use more facial expressions than gestures in their nonverbal communication. Men, on the contrary, should have more gestures. Observing this simple proportion, you will look more harmonious and confident, which means that the audience will like you more. In order to speak confidently and enunciate, it is important to learn how to breathe correctly. There is a special technique of breathing "diaphragm", it allows you to make your voice more voluminous, and less tired during long performances. Learn the main tips and tricks of world famous speakers.

Pity is the best control lever.

That's because our mental system is built that way. I've met very few people who can stay aloof from the other's grief. So people begin to unconsciously obey and try their best to help the other. But the main thing here is not to overdo it, otherwise you can be caught and get dumped.

Be more silent.

Have you ever noticed that people who listen more are more trustworthy. That's because they have a great psychological advantage. And often people begin to talk more next to silent people and thus tell them everything that is necessary and not necessary. It is enough to throw out a couple of questions and look engaged to make anyone trust you. And let me tell you a secret, where there is trust, there is the possibility of suggestion.

How to manipulate a girl with a smile.

More precisely, its absence. Haven't you ever noticed how girls react to guys who abruptly began to "sad"? “Something happened, John?”, “Are you all right?”, “You are kind of upset ..” - and so on. And if a guy starts to “sad” in the company, then she will ALWAYS start asking everyone “what about him?” Why does it work like this? Because most girls are attracted by men who need to be “fixed”. Pull those who need help, care ... In short, "drama" they need.

How the figure of the pope forms the fear of loneliness.

Situation: Dad didn't choose mom. And dad didn't choose you. You see, mom is not okay. And you, too - after all, dad left you too. And even if this is not a divorce, mom and dad living as neighbors make it clear to you that love does not live here. You already know: love is about "deserving". Both you and your mother tried hard, that's why they didn't get it. And every time you get into a relationship, you will keep your finger on the pulse: what if he is like a dad? Will he be dissatisfied and leave you alone? And you're afraid. What to do? Realize that if a parent abandoned you, he did not do this because he was unhappy with you. His motives were within the relationship with his mother, but not with you. EVERYTHING is fine with you and you can check it in your own relationships.

Intonation matters.

Did you know that 38% of meaning is communicated through tone and voice. Why do you need to know that? Well, if only to use it properly. Learn to manage your tone. No quiet statements under your breath. Everything should be clear and loud, (but not too much so that you can be heard in the next room). Your speech should be slow with short pauses. And remember, no commanding tone, you won't gain credibility that way, I'm telling you that for sure.

The rule of gradualness.

Do you need to instill a person with an idea or make them agree to everything? More than simple. All it takes is some time and patience. It is necessary to gradually inculcate the same idea into the subject's head day after day, and after a while they themselves will begin to think so. An excellent and illustrative example is abuse. When one blames the other for all their troubles: "Yes, it's your fault that I'm an alcoholic." If you tell someone every day that they are a fool, then sooner or later they will start to think so, too.

Silence, but not of the lambs.

Very often manipulators resort to this method. To ostensibly show all their resentment. Now, I'm not pointing any fingers, but women do it most often.The main way to oppose to such manipulation is to keep from dancing to the tune of the manipulator. If the manipulator manages to play on the feelings of others once, he will succeed in doing so again. It's better to say something like this: "Approach me when you're ready to talk constructively." This way the person will understand for sure that you are not playing their games.

What keeps a man interested in you?

From time immemorial, any man was attracted to women who know how to be satisfied. Alas, not all ladies are in this state all the time. Some completely discourage male interest in their person from the very first minutes of their acquaintance. For example, they immediately dictate their demands or sit with a “sour” face. So the main conclusion is: Demonstrate a state of pleasure always. It doesn't matter if you are reading a book or riding in public transport. In your every phrase, in every action, you should read: "I live in abundance."

Three types of families.

In a troubled family, everyone fights for their own solution, not because they think it's reasonable, but because they don't know how to give in. Partners blame each other, are afraid to give in and look weak. Therefore, in a problem family, decisions are made with difficulty. In a dominant family, decisions are made by one partner, and the second does not influence them. Usually it's a man. Women with a soft character who need support feel protected in such relationships. In a partner family, decisions are made jointly. Partners are able to give in, but also to protect their interests, too. They try to think and take care of each other, make balanced, adult decisions.