Why doesn't he understand what I want?

The most common problem is that we expect certain things from others, but forget to tell them about it. Therefore, it is imperative to speak in words about your needs and desires, even if it seems to you that everything is already so obvious. So, speak up. But do not swear and do not demand, but tell us about your desires and expectations.

Women's mistakes in relationships.

1. A woman projects herself onto a man and vice versa. I have already written more than once that men and women see the world in completely different ways. You should not evaluate the behavior and actions of a partner from your "bell tower". 2. A woman communicates with a man with hints. She cannot directly say what she wants, and he perceives her attempts to harmonize relations as an attack. 3. Communication is not established. Partners have little in common, no common topics for conversation, no interesting communication, no reason to admire each other. As a result, one of the partners begins to get bored and looks for entertainment on the side.

Make people feel needed by asking them for help.

If you want to ask for something, start by saying: "I need your help". People like to feel NEEDED and hate to feel guilty. By complying with these two rules from the very beginning of a conversation, you're more likely to get the help you need.

Write down your thoughts when you feel anxious.

Anyone who has been under stress or anxiety at some point knows how hard it is to abstract it away. Write down your thoughts and experiences in a notebook and then close it. Believe it or not, you'll find it much easier to focus on your work after sharing thoughts this way. This rule works in any situation: by sharing your anxiety with someone, you unload your brain and reduce the psychological burden.

7. How will I feel when everything works out?

With what face will you approach the mirror and whom will you see in it - will you be proud of yourself, or will you be overcome by sadness, regret? It means that you want to make a clearly wrong decision - try to look for another one. It will surely pop up.

6. How does the body react to the solutions?

Lie down and relax. You can do any relaxation technique first to be more comfortable. Visualize each of the possible solutions. And watch the reactions of the body. It does not know how to lie, so it will prompt the correct answer.

5. Are you sure you really need it?

You so want to change jobs (husband, cat, hair, body - whatever). It is very good to scan yourself and turn on awareness. Are you sure that this is your personal desire? Not a dream of a mother, not a desire of a friend, not a stereotype imposed by society?

4. What experiences have I taken from the past?

Very often the story develops in a spiral. What happens to us is what happened before - with minor changes. Do you remember how you acted in a similar situation before? How did it all end? What have you learned? Sometimes the easiest and most obvious thing to do is to take the well-trodden and familiar path. After all, it worked out then, so it will work out now.

3. What is the best and worst outcome?

Try to imagine in colors the best that can happen to you in the current situation. And then the worst. To the maximum. Don't rush, think. Often we ourselves do not understand what exactly we are afraid of. But when analyzing with a sober mind, it turns out that the situation is not at all as bad as it seems to us.

2. What do I choose if I am not limited by money?

A lot of undertakings crashed due to lack of finances. There is an amazing property in the Universe: when we really want something, strive for something, then the money seems to be on its own. So, perhaps you are just making up an excuse for yourself that you do not have enough funds to fulfill what you want? Dream big, it's possible!

1. What do I choose if fear does not interfere with me?

We are afraid of a lot. In some cases, we don't even realize it. We have our own fears and those that were "given" to us by our parents and the environment. We fear the unknown and even the familiar. To get started, write down all your options and the fears associated with them on paper. Imagine that you are completely fearless. Or call in an adviser to a person who can assess the situation and you objectively and sincerely. You will be surprised, but it may turn out that the best solution is the solution that scares you the most.

Technique "7 questions"

Do you know such a state when you need to make an important decision, but you just can’t decide and take any step? You are tormented by doubts and fears, you cannot understand your true intentions. You seem to be missing something important. I think we all have faced the same situation more than once. I want to advise you one very interesting technique. It is called "7 questions", and is simply indispensable when you need to make the right decision or understand your true desire. This technique can be used perfectly for any impasse in life where there are many solutions.

Men are more likely than women to flirt at work for a promotion.

Men are more likely than women to flirt for a promotion, and among them the most active are narcissistic and insecure employees in low positions. To such conclusions after a series of experiments came scientists from the University of California.

How to negotiate with a man?

What is the main mistake of a woman? The fact is that instead of resolving the issue, she begins to emotionally attack the man, solving the momentary task - to defuse her resentment. That is, if you are not satisfied with the situation, it is necessary to resolve the issue. But not at the moment when you once again do the dishes for two after a hard day at work and are already angry. And reasonably and calmly, choosing a convenient time for a conversation. Claims will not help here: they will only put a man in a situation where he wants to protect himself, and he will no longer be up to justice.

Disadvantages of a long distance relationship

Consider the disadvantages of long-distance relationships: • Lack of physical intimacy can get boring sooner or later. • a different mentality of a partner can show itself from the most unexpected side for you. • different time zones are not always convenient for communication. • pressure from others, because there will always be a person who will blurt out: “What if he cheats on you there?”.

Think about the cost of a fight.

When you are arguing with a loved one about some little thing, think about what it will cost you to win this dispute. Let's say you like your own idea a little more, you persevere and emerge victorious. And you become a little happier. But how much will you lose because your partner is upset? Is your opinion about some little thing really more important to you?

Concentration hour.

Schedule at least one such hour a day on your calendar and during that time focus on the work that matters most. No distractions or entertainment. Set a timer to know when the time is up and get started. One hour is often enough to get quite a lot done. And scheduling this distraction-free time is easier than trying to be productive all day long. If you have the opportunity, set aside two or three hours of total concentration.

Develop the ability to focus.

Develop the ability to focus. It is generally accepted that leadership is the ability to make important, but unpopular decisions. This is only part of the truth. To become an outstanding leader, you need to be able to abstract from the superfluous. Success will be achieved by the one who ignores everything secondary. Otherwise, the routine will drag you back.

Who's right?

Remember. Always, in any situation, there are only two options: 1. Prove yourself. That means to escalate the situation, to take offense, to accuse and ruin relationships, accumulating negative memories and emotions (which come out at the next slightest quarrel: "Do you remember what you did that time? Do you remember what you said back?" and so on). 2. Or simply accept the fact that other people have their own truth. It may actually differ from yours and even may be wrong, but you shouldn't try to correct everyone all the time. However, if you want to build a strong and trusting relationship, then you should try to choose the second option in disputable and stressful situations as often as possible.

This is what can help you overcome anger:

• Do breathing exercises to calm down • Write down all your feelings • Get some workout • Listen to energetic music • Punch a pillow (or something soft, no need to hurt yourself or anyone)