Fresh or Fried

Fresh or Fried This philosophy was created by blogger Stephanie Lee. According to her, when you wake up in the morning, your brain is “fresh”, but as the day goes on, it “roasts”. This means that you must determine the time of your peak productivity and have time to do all the most important things in a day during this period. Here's how it works. ▪️At the end of the day, when you're already tired, take 15 minutes to create a to-do list for tomorrow. ▪️Move the most important tasks at the beginning of the day to the Fresh section. Things that you don’t like go there - those same “frogs”. They need to be done while you still have the strength. ▪️Less urgent, not very difficult and more pleasant cases go to the Fried section - that is, in the afternoon, depending on your schedule. They will load your brain less. ▪️ Follow your list the next morning. Then make a new one tonight. Stephanie recommends FoF to people who find themselves absolutely exhausted every evening, but have not done anything, despite working all day.

Domestic violence.

Many women are forced to endure beatings and humiliation, as they simply have nowhere to go from a relationship. This is how they themselves think, and this is the first delusion. The second misconception is "I can't do without this man." Many people forget, but we come into this world and leave it alone. And even when it seems to you that you will not cope, remember that this is only fear. You are stronger than you think. Another misconception is “You yourself are to blame for driving me”, an imposed feeling of guilt from a man. No man in the world has the right to beat you!

Smile, it suits you!

Nobody likes sullen people, right? For a man, a smiling woman is a symbol of joy and serenity. When she smiles, she exudes sexuality, serenity. Judge for yourself: what initially attracts a man when he meets a girl? He loves his condition next to her. If the lady breathes longing, the man immediately moves away. As soon as he feels the positive mood of his companion, he looks at her as if bewitched, and no longer wants to part with her.

These rules will increase your effectivenes.

Be proactive. The principle of being proactive comes down to changing yourself. If you don't like what's around you, start changing yourself, it's the only thing you are in control of. The most important things must be done first. You need to prioritize and address key issues first. Do what gets you closer to your goals, not the problems. Always improve yourself. It's important to constantly develop and improve yourself physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. You are your greatest resource.

About the value and devaluation of life experiences.

When people devalue and humiliate each other after a break up, it is perhaps a little less painful for them because it is always easier to part with something that is not very valuable or even harmful. But as part of a life strategy, devaluing is just a waste of individual resource. When we reject people and demean relationship with that person, we actually reject the life experience gained in that relationship. And so life's time is wasted. How often do you hear: "I wasted so much time on that fool" or "I gave it my all." But what is left after the breakups that inevitably happen in life of each of us? Experience and the ability to apply it.

How to get people to like you.

First of all, find out who YOU are. Discover someone who can and enjoys being alone for a long time. Someone who appreciates freedom and solitude, and knows what to do with it. The one who do different things without being dependent on the result. Someone who can leave at any moment without feeling guilty. Someone who knows what his worth is. Someone who can easily be on the scene, and just as easily leave it. Someone who can gladly watch someone dancing, without a desire to repeat it, just enjoying. Someone who recognizes other people's talents without envy. Someone who hears her/himself and develops what he or she wants to develop. When a person is filled with love and understanding, people are drawn to her or him. Such a person is happy to see whoever comes and goes. He or she respects other people's privacy and doesn't manipulate...

Understand each other's love language.

It's easy to shift blame and get angry when your needs aren't met. But instead, take the time to understand and accept each other's point of view. Usually a fight happens because one person feels unappreciated. Therefore, by learning and expressing your love in the language of your partner, you will create the foundation for a perfect marriage.

What if a man disappears and then reappears?

A situation familiar to many women. Why is this happening? Men who disappear and then reappear may well be abusers who enjoy keeping you on a tight leash all the time. Another reason: he left thinking that the breakup would have no effect, but then he rethought everything and realized how disgusting he had acted. Forgive? Or is it better to refuse to step on this rake again? You decide!

Discovering yourself means finding out all your little peculiarities

For example, you may find out that you like espresso, rather than cappuccino, even though both contain caffeine. Or realize that due to your character, you can't work in an office and must seek freelance work. To get interested in people and find out why you don't like everyone. To figure out what makes you happy and allow yourself to practice it. Realize that you don't feel great in November, but April is the time of renewal for you. This process is like building a house, brick by brick, tile by tile. The more different materials you use, the bigger, more interesting and more beautiful your house is. Your house has an entrance and windows, and not everyone you let in. Life is given to us to know ourselves, so use every step you make to get closer to yourself.

Adrenaline addiction.

People addicted to high levels of adrenaline in their blood tend to take part in extreme sports despite injuries and other negative consequences of their hobby. Under stress, we follow the "hit or run" reaction. But what good is it? In moments of stress, adrenaline is not the only hormone released, there is also norepinephrine, which causes a feeling of euphoria and happiness. Thus, an adrenaline junkie might endanger his or her life to provoke stress.

ART therapy - how does it work?

This meditative practice is especially good for working with anxiety disorders. Even an ordinary children's coloring book can significantly help to relieve stress. The process when we choose a color to fill in the drawing with it and then change the color to do it again promotes dissolving of internal dialogue, since at this moment we are engaged in the very process of creation. Give yourself 10-30 minutes a day to meditate and fill a coloring book. The effect will not be long in coming!

How to take the first step?

The easiest way to do this is to flirt, but without pressure. By flirting, you give certain signals. And if a man is really not indifferent to you, he will definitely consider them and take a step towards you. You can't take it on a whim. A man will not appreciate what he got too easily. So play. Depending on the situation, choose active flirting or lighter, unhurried flirting. Be open to communication, radiate feminine energy, love.

Warmth in the family.

It has long been known that all happy families begin with a good relationship between parents. When we are constantly in tension and stress, endlessly fighting with a partner, this inevitably affects our relationship with children. On the positive side, it is easier for partners in whose relationship peace reigns to be good parents. Give children a safe base and a safe haven. Therefore, the best thing you can do for your children is to build your own happy relationships.

Hate is a virus.

When we notice that others ignore norms and follow impulses, we easily allow ourselves to succumb to whatever impulses we have. That is, whenever we grasp hatred, our own self-control declines. A famous person donates money for hot lunches for doctors - "he's a bastard - it's nothing more than PR." A famous actress sets up a fund to help sick children - "well, it's definitely a corrupt scheme." Even the worst of times pass. But the anger in our hearts will accumulate and grow until it ruins all the good in each of us. Remember, the one you hate may not even know of your existence, but the virus of hate can start certain negative psychosomatic processes in your body.

Why do we live in the world of total annoyance?

We get annoyed by things that are peculiar to us. Or more precisely, by things we don't want to admit and accept in ourselves. ▫️ People don't live up to our expectations. The closer a person is to us, the more we consider her/him as a friend, the more we demand from him or her. ▫️ We are often annoyed by other people's achievements. That happens because we compare our own weaknesses with the strengths of others. ▫️ We are so wrapped up in material things that we forget about the true values we get for free - relationships.⠀ What's the result? Dislike and rejection of yourself generates dislike of those around you, because what we see in the world around us is just a reflection of what is inside of us.

There is actually no choice.

If you want to manipulate someone, ask the right questions so that the person thinks he or she is making their own choice. Shall we go to a movie or a restaurant? Will you call me at four or five? Do you want one pack or two? Well, you can really come up with a lot of other examples. And by the way, I advise parents to adopt this method, since it works flawlessly with children.

Don't forget the flattery!

No matter how much you deny it, everyone likes flattery. It is in our nature to like someone who tells us that we are special. And of course we trust people like that more. So if you use such phrases as: "I am glad that a person like you..." or "So smart person like you...", I can say unequivocally that the degree of trust will be off the charts.

If you are hostile to the world, it will respond the same to you.

If you constantly express your dissatisfaction, there will be more and more reasons for this. If negativity prevails in your attitude to reality, then the world will turn its worst side towards you. Conversely, a positive attitude will most naturally change your life for the better. A person gets what he chooses. This is the reality, whether you like it or not. Get into the “idiotic” habit of celebrating failure. This is much more fun than getting annoyed and whining for any reason.

What is love?

Cook food, massage. Meet from work. Hug. Make little surprises. Swear for the fact that in thin pantyhose. For leaving the scarf in the car. Get up at night for medicine when you are sick. Make milk with honey when coughing. Decorate the house together and rearrange. Stroke your arms, back, shoulders. Learn to be silent. Apologize, even when you're wrong. Smooth out corners. Buy dresses or your favorite rafaelki. Rather go home from work and not linger. Watch football or favorite series. Wrap in a blanket to keep warm in the morning. Stir sugar into tea. Watching out the window as the car drives away from the house in the morning. Run out barefoot to the kitchen in order to have time to kiss and see off. Angry, but never stop being grateful. Bring flowers. Laugh. It all means love.

Like attracts like.

Low energy attracts low energy, and high energy attracts high energy. Low energy feelings include anger, hatred, envy, shame, guilt, and related thoughts. They not only make you weak, but also attract similar feelings! By replacing low energy thoughts with uplifting ones, that is: of love, harmony, peace, and joy, you will begin to attract higher energies and vibrations to yourself, which you can then share with others. These higher energies will empower you and help you stop low-potential thoughts, just as light dispels darkness. If you can love yourself, you can attract higher energies, which will help you change internally.