I do too much for relationships.

"I do so much for him, but he ..." Sometimes a husband and wife make almost identical claims to each other, the essence of which is: "I do much more for the family, but you don't even appreciate it." Who is right and what to do if you also find yourself in a similar situation? Become more attentive and start to notice what the husband is doing. It's even worth writing a list. Usually, if you start listing, it turns out that the partner does a lot and certainly no less than you. We just don't usually pay attention to it.

Praise out loud.

It is obvious to you that since you are there, your partner is the best for you. He - would not mind if you sometimes reminded him of this. Of course, actions are more important than words, but a good compliment, tender recognition or praise are not superfluous.

The man does not know how to admit his guilt.

He is always right. Fight to the last! Never apologizes. If the dispute has reached an impasse, he may be silent for a week, but does not admit that he is to blame. Familiar? Avoid men who do not know how to admit their guilt, because the one who is always right and not guilty of anything will make you a scapegoat. You will correct his mistakes and all responsibility will fall on you, because he is perfection! Roughly speaking, he would rather set you up than stand up to his full height and say: "I made a mistake, I'll fix it." Nobody is always right. And to allow yourself to make mistakes and apologize, in fact, means to gain the freedom to be yourself. Are you able to admit guilt? What about your partner?

Speak the other's language.

A simple truth: people are more likely to trust those who are similar to them, whom they can understand. So your task is to adapt to your interlocutor. She quotes the greats? Try to remember a couple of them too. He jokes? You also need to show your sense of humor. This rule applies to non-verbal communication as well. If the person is actively gesticulating, then you need to be lively and open-minded. If he/she chooses closed postures, you should be more restrained. This method also works in a group. You just need to find out the manner of communication appreciated by the particular audience.

Healthy selfishness is a prerequisite for inner comfort.

If we care too much about others, it turns into a problem. By constantly giving in and considering our inner self to be less valuable than others', we erase our personal boundaries and concentrate completely on the needs of others. Swallow resentment and give in, or say "no, that won't do!" and allow ourselves to be HAPPY. Always trying to be "good" is pointless. Sooner or later something can go wrong and you will be certainly blamed and criticized. Living only for someone, you have to ignore your own desires and needs. Remember: sacrificing yourself for others is your own decision.

Is anger physically addictive?

It happens quite often. During an outburst of rage, ADRENALIN is released into the bloodstream. This hormone energizes us and dulls our pain. The pleasure of such a release when you get angry is about the same as during a parachute jump. A person seeks this state to relieve stress or to overcome negative thoughts. Usually, having expressed his/her anger, he/she feels great, while his/her victims are completely destroyed.

10 phrases that men say when cheating.

If you haven't "caught" him yet: • She's just a friend. • Respect my privacy (read: Stay out of my phone/laptop). • You are cheating on me? (A typical case is that those who deceive themselves suspect their partners of similar deception). • You're wrong/not good enough... (and then total criticism of all your actions). • Oh, I can do my own laundry. • I need to stay late, I have a lot of work to do. If a man is convicted of treason: • I still love you and want to be with you. • I didn't mean to hurt you. • I didn't want/afraid to lose you. • She means nothing to me. No matter what a man says, his eyes betray him! I suppose you yourself will feel where the manipulation is, and where is just your fears.

How to resolve domestic issues peacefully?

1. Divide household chores based on desires, comforts, and needs. 2. Learn to negotiate, seek compromises. Do not push or demand something that your partner does not like. There is always a way out. 3. Do not forget to spend quality time only together, get out somewhere.

Should I give a man a loan?

Reasons why you can not give a man a loan? 1. A woman as an "airbag". Once having borrowed money, you give him a “red light” for the subsequent resolution of his financial issues. I guarantee: he will come to you for the next tranche instead of looking for a part-time job. 2. Feeling of permissiveness. Men whose loans are paid by their wives have no sense of proportion at all. They accumulate a lot of debts, and when the “hour of reckoning” approaches, they innocently declare: “Well, we are a family, is it difficult for you to pay or what?” 3. It degrades. One of the main life tasks of any man is the financial support of the family. And when all financial matters are decided by a woman, it is not surprising that after a while he lies with a beer on the couch and grows a belly.

Do you know how to listen?

Surprisingly, people lack the seemingly simple skill – the art of LISTENING. This is especially true of chronic interrupters who always prevent others from telling a story. Listening is the most important communication skill. Most people you listen to with interest will find you an attractive person. In order to learn how to listen, you should really want it. Of course, it's okay that you listen to the people who matter to you and get the information you need. But try to go a little deeper. Learn to listen and hear what the person puts into his/her words, their interests and views on life.

Do you know how to keep silent?

Most people feel ANXIETY when silence occurs. Because of this, one begins to strain his brain to find at least one word to say. Sometimes the result can be absurd. Sometimes it's a way out of a silent mutual state. In fact, there's actually no shame in being silent. It's much better than talking nonsense. You have to be calm during a conversation. Usually when a person has a "cool" mind, some insights occur. Thus, if you behave calmly and think less about what to say, the right thoughts and words surely come to you.

Important tips.

What seems like a failure to you right now could actually be the start of something wonderful. Any experience is good for you. Problems should force you to act, not to drive you into depression. Don't dwell on mistakes, you can't change the past. But in your power to influence the present and the future. Stop comparing yourself to others and striving for unhealthy perfection. Do not put off your dreams for later, do not be ashamed of yourself. Do not reproach yourself for not making enough progress, but praise yourself for doing your best. Absolutely everything that you want to change in your life and that you want to add to it is in your hands.

Wake the child in yourself.

There is one simple rule: "What is inside is outside and outside." Our life becomes the way we feel it inside ourselves. Try to look at the world through the eyes of the child: with admiration, curiosity and sympathy for others. Be more simple! Expect from every day of new miracles and discoveries. You yourself will not notice how you turn into a cheerful and mischievous girl, to whom others stretch like a ray of light and warmth.

What elements in appearance drive men crazy.

1. Tousled hair. Thoughtful negligence adds spice to the image, attracting male attention. 2. Skirt with a slit. A mini is not always the best option, but an elegant cut on the leg will definitely add mystery. 3. Bare feet. Men really like well-groomed fingers with an impeccable pedicure. Therefore, after a shower, try walking barefoot in front of him instead of your favorite slippers. 4. Bikini marks. It is not known why, but it turns men on insanely. 5. Points. Even if you have excellent eyesight, try at least once to appear in front of him in this accessory, you will definitely see delight and desire in his eyes.

When love leaves.⠀

• He becomes irritable. His jokes are snarky. • His promises are no longer kept. He only promises and finds a bunch of excuses. • Intimacy becomes less passionate than it used to be. You feel that this is only a physiological need to finish quickly, and not to satisfy you. • He is looking for any reason to quarrel with you and finds it. ‼️This is where it ended! His love! And another appeared, but not to you.

Reduce options when you can't make a decision.

Some people think that the more choices they have the better. In fact, too many choices cause decision paralysis. There is quite a bit of research proving that: FOUR is the maximum number of options a person can effectively analyze to make the best choice.

FIGHTING LAZINESS — what to start with?

If you have lots of things to do, don't put them off. Besides building willpower, doing tasks immediately increases productivity. You can use SPORTS as a motivation. As for work and studies — here the ability to start doing tasks immediately is even more important and is directly related to your success.

Procrastination and how to detect it.

Procrastination is the action of POSTPONING important and urgent tasks or replacing key responsibilities with minor but more pleasant ones. Procrastination is considered to be the greatest enemy of productivity because it leads to missed deadlines and ineffectiveness. For example, you decided to take a five-minute break and check social media, but when you looked at your watch, you realized that it took an hour. During that time, you have liked dozens of posts, but the business plan has not been finished. That is, you've wasted 60 minutes in vain.

Communicate with courage.

Confident communication with other people smooths out all your shortcomings. Your persuasiveness depends on this self-confidence, which you need to build. Since communication is absolutely crucial to life, it must be honed to perfection, and this will open many doors for you. Speak sincerely, communicate BEAUTIFULLY, do it with confidence, because it's YOU and these are YOUR words, so you need to be more convincing and not to doubt yourself.

How to find out that the person you met is not your type?

The person you're talking to is focused on himself. You agree to take a cup of coffee, and the person is talking about himself for an hour with rapt attention. Perhaps you are flooding him with questions on himself. But if not, there is a sign that this is a self-absorbed person, who cares only about his own feelings and interests. Your life and your interests will NEVER really matter to him. If you've met a classic NARCISSIST — a person who doesn't see anyone's worth except his own, then you may be sure that he will carry his narcissism throughout his entire life.