Feelings You Must Forget

There are feelings that cause you discomfort and, moreover, can harm your life. They destroy your relationships, your inner comfort, confidence, and motivation. Feelings you must forget: 1. The feeling of belief in the ideal. There is nothing ideal in the world. It's impossible. Everything can be made even better. Without the absence of an unattainable ideal, there is no striving for perfection. Otherwise, it leads to degradation. 2. The feeling of loneliness. This feeling is unproductive, and consequently, it is laziness. Laziness is the absence of desire. Without desire, one can only be lonely. It's a paradoxical feeling.

Feelings That Hinder Our Lives

3. The feeling of importance. You are not important. What matters is how you can be useful to others. And vice versa. 4. The feeling that you owe someone something. You owe nothing to anyone since birth. Except to yourself. This is a fact. It cannot be disputed. 5. The feeling of waiting. Don't wait for anyone or anything if it hasn't already happened. Look for new ways, other opportunities. Have a different plan. Waiting is the lot of the lazy. 6. The feeling that someone owes you something. No one owes you anything. With this logic, you owe someone something. But you owe nothing to anyone.

Feelings that hinder us from living

7. Feeling of despair. Forget it. Only euphoria. Only pleasure. Do what you want, not what others want you to do. There are no two identical life experiences. Experience is always unique. 8. Feeling of fear. Fear and self-preservation are different things. While you are afraid, you are inactive. Inactivity is laziness. Laziness is loneliness. You know the rest. 9. Feeling that someone is right. Until proven, everything is a lie. 10. Feeling of incompetence. Humans are teachable. Always and everywhere. If it is not so, it is not a human.

Feelings That Hinder Us From Living

11. The feeling that life is passing you by. Quit. 12. The feeling of responsibility. It should not be a feeling. It should be a fact. 13. The feeling of resentment. Don't hold grudges. It's just people. Their job is to let you down. 14. The feeling of shame. If you did everything right, you should not be ashamed. If someone did something wrong — don't be resentful. Shame is just a substitute for this feeling. 15. The feeling of having no choice. There is always a choice! 16. The feeling of panic. Remember. We will all die anyway. While you are alive, get rid of everything unnecessary.

How personal boundaries with close ones might sound

1. I respect your opinion, but I will make the decision based on my values and desires; 2. What you are saying makes me uncomfortable, let's drop this topic; 3. I'm sorry you don't like my choice, but it is mine and it suits me personally; 4. I would like to be alone today, I need to rest and recharge.

Desires Keep Us Alive

As long as we have desires, we have life. Wanting a bouquet of ranunculus for a birthday, a new bra/sweater/shirt, a fresh manicure, breakfast at a favorite café or a new place, a trip to the neighboring city and a picnic there, cooking a delicious dish from a new recipe, growing a blog to 10,000 subscribers, going to the pool/gym or for a massage, getting eyelash lamination and sugaring, and who knows what else - our life is made up of these little desires. This is our motivation to get up in the morning to go to work and earn money, and simply the motivation to live. These little desires make up the beautiful picture of our lives. The more thoughtful the desires, the more beautiful the picture - it is like a well-thought-out composition, light, shadow, volume in a real painting or photograph. Develop your desires! And may they come true!

Strong relationships for those who:

1. Follow their own mutual agreements and boundaries, rather than stereotypes about what is ‘right’ and ‘proper’. 2. In difficult situations, stand together against the problem, not against each other, avoiding mutual grievances, claims, and insults. 3. Understand each other, notice what is happening with their partner, and can interpret it correctly.

Forgiveness is Optional

You do not have to forgive someone even if they apologized. This is absolutely normal. You should not feel guilty about this and forgive due to these feelings or out of pity for the person. Their actions hurt you, and you have the right to accept the apology or not. An important point: you should not manipulate with your resentment by staying in the relationship with the person. Usually, communication is minimized in such a situation (if you need time to think over the situation) or ceases altogether.

What does a person experience in toxic relationships?

They constantly experience negative feelings - anxiety, fatigue, insecurity, uncertainty, and sometimes even fear. These can be caused by various actions of the partner - manipulation, lies, devaluation, jealousy, unsolicited criticism, ignoring needs, gaslighting, threats.

Emotional Boundaries

Emotional boundaries help separate your own emotions from those of others or those imposed on you. Healthy emotional boundaries prevent you from interfering in others' lives, giving unsolicited advice, blaming or criticizing someone, feeling guilt imposed by others for things for which you are not responsible. Emotional boundaries protect you from feeling guilty for others' negative feelings or problems to which you are not related.

Tip of the Day

Never despair. No matter what happens, no matter how hard it gets, remember – you need to take one step after another. The main thing is not to stop, keep stepping even when you don't see where to go. Keep going anyway. Only you choose where to stop – so keep moving until you find a place where you want to stay.

Friendship between Man and Woman

Understanding and Harmony. One of the most discussed questions in the field of interpersonal relationships is the possibility of friendship between a man and a woman. For a long time, it was believed that men and women could not just be friends, but modern society shows that such friendships are possible and very valuable. Understanding without Stereotypes: It is important to overcome stereotypes and prejudices about friendships between genders. Friendship is based on mutual respect, common interests and values, and not necessarily on romantic feelings.

Friendship Between a Man and a Woman

Open Communication: To maintain friendship, it is important to talk openly about your feelings and expectations. If misunderstandings arise, discuss them and don't hesitate to express your thoughts. Mutual Support: Friendship between a man and a woman can be especially valuable as it provides an opportunity to learn different perspectives and support each other in various areas of life.

The Second Chance

In reality, the person who needs a 'second chance' is not the one who receives it, but the one who GIVES it. People do not change! One might say something in the heat of the moment, break something accidentally, or step on a foot. But it is impossible to betray someone accidentally, or to be unfaithful accidentally, and so on. And when a person gives the opportunity to fix everything, they do it for themselves, to make sure they have done everything for this relationship. Because everyone understands, it is impossible to change what has already been done!

Rejoice in all you have at this moment

Rejoice in all you have at this moment. This is not an empty call to be happy by definition. Sometimes circumstances make it very difficult to be content. But from a purely practical point of view, expressing dissatisfaction is very disadvantageous. After all, do you want to reach the life paths where you are satisfied? But how will you get there if your radiation is filled with dissatisfaction?

Love and Understanding

Truly listen to and understand your loved one, not just in ways that are convenient for you. If joint shopping trips or gifts are not very important to you, but they are important to your partner, do what is valuable to them. To love means to be able to show your love in a way that unites with an understanding and perception of each other. Mastering the art of loving is the key to harmonious relationships.

Asserting Your Superiority Over a Man? Be Ready for Loneliness!

Asserting your superiority over a man, be ready for loneliness. Perhaps this is obvious for many women, but often, I see some kind of competition in couples. A man may very well admit to being less fortunate and admire his beloved, but he won't stay in that position for long. Dear ladies! When you are cooler than your man, you instill anxiety in him, a feeling of losing control of the situation, and complete helplessness. The pack, in the form of his family, is no longer safe. This, of course, refers to men who take responsibility. If he is just a couch specimen, then everything is fine. No need to worry. Compete, achieve!

Take Care of Yourself

Take care of yourself. Don't look for problems within yourself, don't burden yourself. Just remember how special you are, what a miracle you are. This life. Yes, it's tough. But that's what makes it interesting. It has been given to you so that you can reveal all your talents that you already possess. You will move mountains. The entire world is at your feet. And this is not just a fiery speech calling for action, but the purest truth. Take care of yourself. Don't judge, don't criticize. In such moments, you forget that there is light within you. It doesn't matter what happens or has already happened. What matters is what's going on inside of you.

Befriend Yourself

Befriend yourself. Recognize your worth. Make peace with all your inner critics, accept all your 'imperfections', your past, and move forward, accepting all the gifts of this life, but already in harmony with yourself. You are all you have. There is enough love, light, happiness, and all blessings within you. They are already within you. Everything you need is love and happiness. But the truth is that everything is already within you, you yourself are the source of love and happiness.

Being a Cozy Person

One day, in the life of every person, there inevitably appear completely harmless, very sincere and open — cozy people. When you meet them, you just want to endlessly smile, and in general, a feeling of happiness quietly envelops you from head to toe. Meetings with such people pass too quickly because you start to lose track of time, the cups of tea drunk, and the change of discussion topics. You somehow suddenly realize that this person is already close and dear to you. It even becomes unimportant that a couple of weeks, days, or minutes have passed since you met. Simply in the company of such people, you somehow become better, warmer, and more harmonious yourself.