You Have the Right to Leave

You have the right to leave someone you love but who treats you badly. You have the right to put yourself first and leave if you keep trying over and over but nothing changes. You have the right to leave bad friends, you have the right to surround yourself with love, people who support you and help you. You have the right to take the energy you need in life. You have the right to forgive yourself for big and small mistakes, you have the right to be kind to yourself, look in the mirror and like what you see. You have the right to free yourself from your own expectations. Sometimes we think leaving is bad, as if it means giving up and throwing in the towel. But sometimes, leaving is the best thing you can do for yourself.

Helping Others Helps Yourself

By helping others, you help yourself. When a person donates something, whether it is money, time, or effort, they free themselves from attachment to material things. By giving, a person symbolically opens up space for new, pure energy. Charitable acts enhance positive vibrations such as compassion, kindness, and love. These high vibrations displace negative ones, like anger, envy, or bitterness, promoting the harmonization of the inner state and improving the energy field. In spiritual traditions, charity is often seen as a means to improve karma. By helping others, a person creates a positive karmic connection that contributes to the cleansing of negative karmic debts accumulated in the past.

Importance of Seeing Your Partner as a Living Person

It is important to see your partner as a living person. The person you love is not a fictional image. Therefore, it is very important to learn to separate your loved one from the imagined image and your expectations. Accept him with flaws and peculiarities. But also with virtues! Accepting does not mean enduring. It means seeing that he's a living person, not perfect. Don’t try to change, save, or expect the impossible. Also, respect his thoughts, feelings, choices, and decisions.

Cherish Life

Cherish life, take care of your loved ones, do something good for the world every day, and give a bit of warmth to the people around you. Understand that each day is unique and unrepeatable, and it is up to you what tomorrow will be like. By nurturing a small sprout of kindness in your soul today, you will soon reap the fruits of harmony and happiness.

A Remarkable Woman

A remarkable woman... she is soft and self-sufficient. She is wise and tender. She is passionate and desirable, a cocktail of innocence and recklessness, emotions and tenderness. The right words and the right touches. A combination of aloofness and fire. Distance and a desire for closeness. Such a woman never bores. It's not just the appearance. It's character, temperament, intellect, and aspirations. Such a woman allows no sadness, no regrets, and never lets one forget the level she is on, already stepping, waiting for her person, or already following or keeping pace. Such women are desired. Such women are remembered. Such women are captivating. Such women are life.

Feelings and Perceptions Matter

Our feelings and perceptions are important, but that doesn't mean they are the immutable truth. When we struggle with our insecurity and miss an interesting opportunity because we feel we are not capable enough, that is not a fact. On any other day, we might think completely differently about ourselves. Emotions are temporary, changeable states. A fact, however, is always unchanging.

Remember to Be Grateful

Thankfulness! It's always nice to feel significant and valuable to another person. Don't forget to thank your partner for everything they do for you: it's important for them to know that their efforts are not in vain. Remember that relationships are hard work, not a given. You need to constantly work on them, learn to yield, forgive, and compromise.

Love...

Love... It isn't divided into "mine", "yours", "don't interfere", "don't touch"... Love is when one life is shared by two. It's when one has a fever, and both stay home on a Saturday evening. It's when one gets promoted, but both have strived for it, and both share the victory. It's when one grieves and both feel the pain. If it doesn't happen this way, there probably isn't love... in one person, while the other tries to love for two...

Childhood grievances are the strongest

Childhood grievances are the strongest and are remembered longer than others, because children take offense with their hearts, while adults with their minds. The mind can overcome a grievance, the heart cannot; it retains scars that cannot be smoothed out like wrinkles in fabric. Coco Chanel.

No Understanding in the Relationship

It's horrible when there is no understanding in a relationship. You live as if you are not in your own skin. You want to prove your point, your views, but you're not heard, not understood, others talk about something else or, worse, ignore you. The solution is simple: you just need to sit down and listen to the one who is dear to you, the one with whom you want to continue the relationship. Don't insist on your 'truth', just listen. There's no better advice, either move towards each other or put a full stop and go in different directions.

People's Fatigue with Themselves

Most often, people get tired of themselves. Of their own experiences, fears, speculations, and worries. From feelings of guilt and attempts to control everything. From the inability to, at least for some time, not rush forward (modeling situations) and not look back (searching for analogs and clichés). Stop comparing, stop scaring yourself, don't build illusions, don't make assumptions for others, stop dialogues in your own head...

Steps to Releasing Someone Else's Negative Energy

Not everyone who constantly demands your support loves you. You also have your own purpose on Earth. And it is not to live someone else's life. Remember that you cannot change the world alone, make it more humane. You are not able to help everyone. Sometimes the best thing you can do is take care of yourself.

Be careful about whom you invite into your life

Be careful when choosing those you invite into your life. Your body, your mind, and your immediate environment are your temple. Who do you want to invite into it? Is it an open invitation? Do people wipe their feet before entering? Or do they come to you only to shed the dirt from their soul? In Brazil, there is a slang word folgado. It can be translated as 'free,' but also as 'lazy.' But in fact, it sounds like 'freeloader.' 'Freeloaders' are people whose lifestyle implies that they will live at the expense of others. If you give such a person a 'piece of bread' once, they will stay and keep asking for more pieces as long as you have 'bread.' And when it's gone, the 'freeloader' will find a new victim. In general, don't let people into your life who only take something from you but give you nothing in return.

Ignore Energy Vampires

Stop paying attention. People who feed off the energy of others are constantly in search of new "victims." Energy vampires can indeed 'drain' life from you, so stay alert! Some people use people like you as a "pit-stop," an opportunity to recharge their batteries. "Eager ears" are like the Holy Grail for them. If a vampire finds them on your head, pretend to listen, but deliberately try to let everything go in one ear and out the other. And just nod. Don't be afraid to seem rude. Learn to love yourself enough to value your time and the purity of your consciousness. If someone pesters you with problems you don't care about, have the courage to simply stand up and say you can't listen to them right now. Defend yourself against energetic toxins.

Breathe in Nature

Breathe in nature. If you need time to reflect, relax, and become aware of some things, try spending it in nature or at least in a park. When walking, focus on your breathing. This will improve blood flow to your brain and allow you to relax. Walking is the best way to clear your head. Only upon returning to the office, home, or previous company, decisively reject dialogues with those who want to clutter your mind again.

Take Full Responsibility

Take 100-percent responsibility for your thoughts and emotions. Take full responsibility for what happens in your mind. The universe sends you encounters with thousands of people to test you. Your task is to select only those who positively influence your perception of life. You are not a victim. And no one has the right to enslave your mind, your soul, or your free will. Consciously make the choice: who will govern your consciousness - you or others? This is not as simple a question as it seems. Think carefully about it. Consider what people and situations give you energy to live? You deserve to spend time only with those who inspire and uplift you. And remember: any love for others begins with love for yourself. You deserve happiness and peace. Just start saying "No" more often. Only then will you learn to manage your energy state.

True Friends are Rare

Never be sure that you are an important part of someone else's life. This excessive self-confidence is unnecessary. In our world, everyone can be replaced, except for parents, so all this self-importance is deceptive. You should not attach to people in general. It usually ends in pain. You should only be confident in yourself, not in others. Everyone will let you down, fail to meet expectations, disappoint. Some will even leave you. Only those who are like you will remain. Your kindred spirits. With them, there will be no expectations, no confidence, no hopes, but they will be there. You won't even understand what connects you, but it will be a strong thread between you. Yes, such people will be few, counted on one hand, but they are real. They will turn out to be the best.

What Does Happiness Mean?

Do you know what happiness means? It's not something you should wait for all your life, and you don't need to earn millions for happiness. Happiness is when life gives you all the chances and you utilize them to the fullest. Appreciate those who are close to you. Any difficulties bring us some lesson, open our eyes, and give us food for thought. Look around you. Who asks you how you are every day? Who, knowing that you are in a bad mood, tries to cheer you up and calm you down? Who can chat with you for hours on end? Hug them tight.

The Importance of Freedom in Your Life

Do not try to hold on to someone or something in your life. It will only lead to suffering. Look around. Nature is very wise. Everything around is made up of elements. Try to hold fire, and you will get burned. Wind, water, or earth, and they will slip through your fingers. Everything is born free. Your task is only to create conditions for the campfire to burn brighter, but do not try to hold it, otherwise it will consume you. Freedom is what matters. Give people and things around you freedom, do not hold them, do not cling to them or to ideas about them. Then you will create the most comfortable conditions for your free life and for the lives of those around you. People will strive to be with you themselves because you give them the most important thing – freedom.

The Advice of My Wisest Grandmother

One day, I asked my wisest grandmother: "What should I do if I love someone?.." She answered without hesitation: "Leave him alone..." I immediately asked the opposite question: "What should I do if I don't love?.." She answered the same: "Leave him alone!..." Seeing my puzzled face, my grandmother explained: "That is the most honest way: you shouldn't torment either the loved or the hated person. If your love is mutual – everything will be fine! If not – there will be nothing. And remember: even in happy relationships, you should leave the person alone as often as possible... the longer they will remain happy!" Many years later, after diving into a sea of practice, I understood that my grandmother's advice was worth many volumes of relationship psychology books. It always works.