Learn to forgive

Learn to forgive. The world we've entered doesn't have a good reputation. It's not a nice place, as you will soon discover, and I doubt it will become much more pleasant by the time you leave it. However, this is the only world available: there is no alternative, and even if there were, there's no guarantee it would be much better than this one. So try not to pay attention to those who will try to make your life miserable. There will be many of them - both in official positions and self-appointed.

Learn to Forgive

Learn to forgive. What your enemies do gains its significance or importance from how you react to it. So race through or past them as if they were a yellow light, not a red one. This way, you spare the cells of your brain from useless agitation. And possibly, you might even save these fools from themselves, for the prospect of being forgotten is shorter than that of being forgiven. Change the channel: you cannot stop this network's broadcast, but you can at least lower its ratings.

Avoid blaming yourself as a victim at all costs

No matter how horrible your situation is, try not to blame external forces for it: history, the government, bosses, race, parents, moon phase, childhood, untimely potty training - the list is extensive and tedious. The moment you blame something, you undermine your own resolve to change anything, and you increase the vacuum of irresponsibility that demons and demagogues love to fill, for a paralyzed will is no joy for the angels.

Avoid Seeing Yourself as a Victim

By all means, avoid attributing to yourself the status of a victim. In general, try to respect life not only for its pleasures but also for its difficulties. They are part of the game, and the good thing about them is that they are not a deception. Every time you are in despair or on the verge of despair, when you have troubles or difficulties, remember: this is life speaking to you in the only language it knows well.

The Parable "Can You Hear Me?"

A man wanted to help his wife, who he suspected had hearing problems. One evening, he stood behind her at the opposite end of the room and whispered: "Can you hear me?" There was no response, so he moved closer and repeated: "Can you hear me now?" The result was the same. He moved even closer and asked: "Can you hear me?" Still not hearing an answer, he finally repeated his question while standing right behind her. She turned to him and said: "For the fourth time, yes!" Sometimes we think something is wrong with others, but it turns out... the issue is with ourselves.

Magnet for Success

When you genuinely care for yourself, you are like a magnet that attracts the best events and people into your life. This message is clear and powerful: you deserve the best. Your inner confidence in your abilities and worth shapes a positive perception of the world around you. Embrace your uniqueness. Feel that you deserve incredible opportunities and relationships. And then your reality will start to reflect your high expectations.

Plan Leisure Time by Taking Turns

Today you do what you like, tomorrow – what your partner likes. This is fair, especially in the early stages of a relationship when both are eager to share their hobbies and favorite places with each other. Additionally, it is a great chance to see if you and your partner are capable of making compromises.

About the Male Goal

It is important for a man to have a high goal in his life. When a man focuses exclusively on a woman and does everything solely for her, he loses the male hormone – testosterone – and acquires the female one – oxytocin. In this process, his male qualities gradually disappear: the drive for leadership, the ability to concentrate, the capability to set and achieve goals. Therefore, it's important for a man to have activities outside the family directed at the common good. And the higher and more ambitious this goal is, the greater heights a man can achieve.

About Men's Goal

If for women's health it is important that work brings pleasure, does not drain energy and is only a joy, then it is permissible for a man to work for the material support of the family without experiencing particularly joyful feelings from his activities. When a man provides for the family, his hard physical work gives him a lot of male strength, strengthens male qualities: responsibility, determination, enterprise, and others. Consequently, the respect and love of his woman for him increases.

On the male goal

The more time a man spends at home, the less he remains a man. Home is the wife's domain, and while a prolonged stay at home gives a woman strength, it deprives a man of it, just as a prolonged stay of a woman in a social environment, at work, deprives her of strength, but endows a man with it. This is how our bodies are structured.

About the Male Aim

If a man has not yet found his place in life, he needs to realize that staying at home will not help him find it. On the contrary, in a passive state, he will only lose enthusiasm and masculine qualities day by day, which are necessary for achieving goals. Therefore, a man should grasp any opportunity, aiming to stay socially active. Subsequently, an understanding of his mission and role in life will come.

About Male Purpose

For men's health, in addition to having a substantial life and work goal, it is important to maintain communication with a close circle of male friends. When he only communicates with his wife, he dissolves his masculine essence into her. He replenishes it among male company or in solitude. It is sometimes important to let a man meet his friends or leave him in solitude so he can recharge and return just as loving.

Main Rules of Psychology

1. The Mirror Rule. The people around me are my mirrors. They reflect the traits of my own personality, often not recognized by me. For example, if someone is rude to me, it means that's what I want, I allow it. If someone deceives me again and again, it means I tend to believe anyone. So, there's no one to be offended by.

The Main Rules of Psychology

2. The Rule of Choice. I realize that everything happening in my life is the result of my own choice. And if today I am talking to a boring person, it means I myself am boring and tedious. There are no bad and evil people – there are unfortunate ones. If I am dealing with their problems, it means I like it. So there is no one to blame. I am the reason for everything that happens to me. The author and creator of my own destiny is myself.

Main Rules of Psychology

3. The Rule of Error. I agree that I can be wrong. Not always should other people consider my opinion or actions to be correct. The real world is not only black and white, there is also light gray and dark white. I am not an IDEAL, I am just a good person and have the right to make mistakes. The main thing is to admit it and correct it in time.

Main Rules of Psychology

4. Rule of Correspondence. I have exactly what I deserve and as much as I deserve, no more, no less, whether it concerns relationships with people, work, or money. If I cannot love a person fully, it is ridiculous to demand that this person loves ME like that. So all my claims are meaningless. And at the same time, when I decide to change myself, the people around me also change (for the better).

Main Rules of Psychology

5. The Rule of Dependency. No one owes me anything. I am capable and can selflessly help everyone I can. And it brings me joy. To become good, one must become strong. To become strong, I need to believe that I can do everything. And I believe it! But I also need to know how to say “NO!”

The Main Rules of Psychology

6. The Rule of Presence. I live here and now. The past does not exist because each successive second becomes the present. The future does not exist because it is not yet here. Attachment to the past leads to depression, concern about the future breeds anxiety. As long as I live in the present, I am REAL. There is a reason to be happy.

Main Rules of Psychology

7. The Rule of Optimism. While we criticize life, it passes us by. Eyes see, legs walk, ears hear, the heart works, the Soul rejoices. My fitness is sunny summer, meadow, and river. As long as I move, as long as the wind caresses the skin—I am alive. When I watch TV, lying on the couch, or hang out on social media—I am not in this world, but in an otherworldly realm.

Why Does Love Fade?

Let’s face the truth. Love doesn’t fade. This means it wasn’t there initially, plus the expectations weren't met. Two people, who voluntarily agreed based on honest agreements to unite their efforts and invest in their union, rather than take and destroy, cannot stop loving each other. Both equally understand the zone of responsibility. They are extremely interested in preserving the union, investing, building, changing, adapting, from the standpoint of co-creation and building.