Finding Calmness

One day, you stop rushing around and trying to prove something to someone. You look at the world with a smile, with all its madness. You're no longer eager to please people, give advice, or judge or save anyone. You stop answering calls from people who haven't impressed or interested you for a long time. You look more at the sky than at what people are busy with or how they live. You remember what inspires you, regardless of the circumstances. You don't apologize, explain, argue, or spend time on uninteresting or temporary things. You discover incredible calmness and many things you've previously overlooked while trying to fit into someone's expectations or meet someone else's standards.

Comfort within is more precious

Comfort within is more precious than any temptations of temporary pleasures. More precious than any temporary people and things. Everything you like is personal, and the personal belongs only to the person you see in the mirror. The rest are empty conjectures and guesses of those who try to see something else in you. You are your own best ally in being yourself and being happy in this crazy world.

I'm a Star!

My husband says that I cannot cook 'proper' pasta (proper means al dente), so he does it himself. He also believes that I cannot be trusted with washing his socks (no matter how I wash them in the machine, I can never manage to match them in pairs afterward). Therefore, he washes them himself. He also claims that I cannot do the weekly grocery shopping properly (there's always something missing), so... well, you get the point. Yes, in this life, there are many things I cannot and do not want to do. And to be honest, I'm not very eager to learn them. I haven't been able to do the splits for twenty years, and I can be pretty categorical, maybe even too much at times. I find it hard to call strangers, and empathy really isn't my strong suit.

I Am Awesome!

But I am cool, cheerful, and internally absolutely calm and stable. I also don't play manipulative games, I always give feedback when I like something or not. And I can do three things well - give birth to children, write interesting texts, and be a support. A friend called recently, I didn't hear it, saw it in the night, and sent her an SMS: "Did you want something?" Response: "Yes. To lean." For me, this is the greatest recognition of my human value - when someone has a hard time, needs to calm down, sort out chaos, and gain confidence, they can lean on me. And I will not crumble, melt, or retreat. I will be nearby and share everything that is within me.

"I AM GREAT!"

So what's the point of all this? Tell us about yourself. About what a good person you are, your best qualities, what you excel at in life, and what you do better than most people. Don't be afraid to seem immodest! When I ask my clients to do the same, most can hardly say anything good about themselves, yet they can easily list bad and critical things – you'll get tired of writing them down. You need to learn to accept yourself as a whole, to see and appreciate your strengths, to respect, protect, support, and encourage yourself.

Stay Calm and Appreciate the Simple Things

Never stress about simple things like work or household chores. Even if everything doesn't go according to your plan, the negative emotions you spend will bring you no good. Do everything with a calm mind, thoughtfully and without haste. Then you will surely manage everything in time and achieve quality, and most importantly, enjoy your work. Negative emotions and nerves can only distract you from the right thoughts and order of things. Even on the busiest day, find a minute to stop and enjoy life, to be grateful for the ability to breathe and love. This, I believe, is the most important thing in life.

Battle of Minds

Any conflict, even a domestic one, is a battle of minds. Each side has its own perception of what is happening, determined by personal characteristics. And what is conditioned is always a dream, no matter how real it may seem. Therefore, it is incorrect in the overwhelming majority of cases to speak of someone's objectivity or someone's unconditional correctness. When two worldviews collide, two versions of perception of what is happening, the one with more energy wins. By imposing their opinion, the victor immerses the loser into their own version of the dream.

The Battle of Minds

This mechanism is so powerful and widespread that there is no point in giving advice on how to avoid it. None. The only thing I can suggest is to learn to notice how it happens - with you and your surroundings. The best thing you can do is to wake up yourself and help another to wake up. And see where you both end up. It’s a difficult task, not understood by society and, rather, disapproved of. Therefore, only a small percentage of enthusiasts are ready for this - if you can call those who are nauseated by the familiar state of things so.

Naturalness is the key to wonderful relationships

Naturalness is the key to wonderful relationships. When you don't have to play silly roles of perfect people in front of each other. When you accept everything in him, and he's ready to kiss every version of you: the angry, the silent, the funny. When you love him in an expensive suit and unshaven in ripped jeans, and he wants you just the same when you're dressed as if you have a high-level meeting in half an hour, and when you're unbrushed, sitting on his lap, purring like a cat with pleasure.

Living and Enjoying Life

To live and rejoice is perhaps the most important thing in life. And even when you feel like everything has collapsed, that everything is going wrong, that people are deceiving your expectations, that situations are turning out worse than they could... let go of your automatic claims. Continue to trust in the wisdom of life. Everything will work out. Everything will be fine. Everything will settle. Do what you can for this, without forcing yourself, and leave the rest to life itself. Everything will be fine, let go of the doubts. Believe, no matter what. Everything will be wonderful. For sure!

The Value of Rare Connections

In reality, it's so rare to meet a person with whom everything feels right in every sense. To listen, to look at, even just to be silent. Someone you can turn your back to without fear, knowing there will be no stab. Someone with whom everything is easy and simple, and you don't have to pretend to be something you're not. When you can be yourself and understand that this feeling is mutual. Such people come into our lives extremely rarely, which makes them more valuable, and that's why losing such people is so painful and frightening. Fate sometimes plays cruel games with us, sending us such people and then taking them away. This makes us understand that nothing is eternal in this world.

The Ideal Does Not Exist

The ideal does not exist. We invent it in our heads, based on our needs and tastes. One should not expect that somewhere on earth there is a person who completely matches the picture we have drawn for ourselves. Everyone has flaws, and it is up to us to decide whether to accept them or to continue searching for the ideal.

Can serious relationships be formed online?

With the development of the internet, we communicate more on social networks, make new acquaintances, get dates, like each other, and draw certain conclusions. Online dating can lead to flirting at most, and now, as more and more dating apps appear, we see that people get to know each other, meet, and fall in love. Meeting people online is easy. There's no embarrassment while chatting and it's easier to open up and start a conversation. Through dating sites, you can find out how interesting a person is to you and whether it is mutual. The downside is that you often encounter not entirely successful options, but that's just like life, choose and verify.

Red Background Affects Perception of Authority

People describe faces depicted on a red background as more authoritative. A group of Japanese scientists wanted to find out how changing the background color affects the perception of human portraits. According to their research, we tend to attribute authoritative character traits to people depicted on red.

Prove Nothing to Anyone

Each person lives in their own mental reality, which is created from their beliefs. The main reason for disagreements between people is that each one considers their view of what is happening to be the only correct one. Observing reality helps to understand that these are just different perspectives on the same thing, and the criterion for reliability is our own life experience. By learning to analyze from different angles, we will understand that any position turns out to be unreliable - just a point of view.

Prove Nothing to Anyone

Prove nothing to anyone. What the need to prove something says. The rejection of the positions of others causes negative emotions in us, but if we look at it from another perspective, the attempt to prove something is a mirror of what we do not accept in ourselves: the confidence that we know exactly how things should be; judging the actions of others as a reflection of self-rejection; beliefs that are already hopelessly outdated; subconscious unwillingness to change. Every person is born with the ability to think and learn, each is born to gain their own life experience: to learn to love, think independently, create their own world, prove nothing to anyone, reject nothing, but accept others’ viewpoints as they are (which does not necessarily mean agreeing with them).

Prove nothing to anyone

Acceptance as the main way of interacting with reality. When we agree to conditions that do not align with our beliefs, we experience a certain mental discomfort. But if a certain circumstance exists, it exists for a reason, whether we like it or not. To accept means to recognize another person’s right to be as they are. By acknowledging the reality as it exists, we gain the opportunity to come into contact with it and influence it. Without acceptance, we cannot take advantage of what is given to us for something important. By resisting certain people or circumstances, we waste a huge amount of energy that could significantly improve our lives.

Prove Nothing to Anyone

The loss of this energy is simply colossal: we extinguish ourselves, extinguish other people, extinguish the resources of the situation and our entire reality. We spend our mental energy on discussions and problems beyond our authority, wasting efforts on things we cannot change: trying to educate others, manipulating them, instead of minding our own business. The best way to prove anything is through our own life in harmony with the inner and outer world, with joyful and grateful acceptance of everything. Eastern philosophy calls this process "action in non-action," which in practice means allowing everything to happen and proving nothing to anyone.

Ways to Refresh Your Relationship

You have been together for several years and have learned each other inside and out. All gestures, words, and actions are familiar and predictable, but you long for something new. Unfortunately, many couples begin to think that their feelings have faded. But this is not true. The cause of all this is the 'sensuality crisis' that every relationship goes through. Here are some ways to easily and pleasantly get through the crisis.

Ways to Refresh a Relationship

Do nice things for each other. Strangely enough, those we truly love often receive the least love. We can easily stay late at work or spend the evening with friends rather than with our beloved husband. Yet, we can easily criticize him for scattered socks. Where are the romance, attention, and tenderness? When we forget to show our feelings, they can genuinely cool down. But if we express them regularly, love and passion will not leave you.