It's normal for your heart to ache a little

If your heart aches a little after you've let someone or something go, it's normal. It just means that your feelings were genuine. No one likes an ending. And no one likes pain. But sometimes we have to end things that were once good after they've become toxic to our well-being. Not every new beginning is meant to last forever. And not every person who comes into your life is meant to stay.

Maintain a relationship at any cost. But what is this cost?

Maintain a relationship at any cost. But what is this cost? It is too expensive. The price of this relationship is you, your soul, your life, and everything you wanted. To maintain a relationship that is falling apart means making all the concessions, agreeing to any terms, breaking yourself. The price is you. Preserving yourself is much more important and valuable. And by the way - cheaper. Because the price of keeping you is the loss of the person who wanted to break you.

Reflections on Life and Humanity

Sometimes you suddenly realize clearly that life passes by. And quite quickly. People are funny. If we lose a couple of dollars, we get upset. But every second we lose a second of life. And nothing, we don't notice. The whole world is a stage, and the people in it are actors. The story tells about this theater, where actor-people from century to century play the same play. They change costumes—togas, doublets, frock coats, tailcoats, pantaloons, jeans. But the play remains the same. Power, money, and lust drive the plot of this play. But everything is covered by obligatory promises of freedom, equality, and happiness of humanity. Throughout the 20th century, people implemented theories of a bright future. But the greatest technical progress and all these bright future theories ended in concentration camps, terror, and the blood of millions. There's much to reflect on...

You Can't Have Two Fates

You can't have two fates. You can't simultaneously have the fate of an unrestrained fool and a moderate sage. You can't maintain a nightlife and be able to create something during the day. You can't indulge in food and alcohol that destroy the body, and yet hope to have a body that functions with minimal destruction. A candle that burns at both ends may, of course, spread the brightest light, but the darkness that follows will be long.

Life Instructions from Bernard Werber

1. You will receive a body. It may be liked or disliked by you, but it is the only thing that will certainly be at your disposal until the end of your days. 2. You will have to learn in a school called Life on planet Earth. Every person and every event is your universal teacher. 3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Failures are an integral part of success. There are no innocent victims - everyone is just a student. 4. The lesson will be repeated in various forms until it is fully learned. If you do not learn the easy lessons, they will become harder. When you learn them, you move on to the next lesson. 5. External problems are an exact reflection of your inner state. If you change your inner world, the outer world will also change for you. 6. You will understand that the lesson is learned when your behavior and attitude towards suffering change. Wisdom is achieved through practice. A little of something is better than a lot of nothing.

The True Woman

A man does not love the woman herself, but his state when he is near her. Therefore, the True Woman is not the most beautiful, not the smartest, and certainly not the most successful in social terms. The True Woman gives a man not intelligence, not beauty, not body, not success, but a state of being. A woman who creates a special state for men – masculine, will always be loved. This state she creates by enjoying the company of her man and admiring him. And to this special state, a man will always be drawn like to a magnet.

Someday you will understand

Someday you will understand that there are people who never betray... But for this, you will have to go through many betrayals. Someday you will understand that outer shine is nothing compared to inner beauty. Because everything that is outside is only until the first rain... But what is inside burns always! Even if it has faded to barely visible embers. But, just purse your lips into a tube and blow gently — the fire will gradually ignite and warm you. Someday you will understand that many formulas and aphorisms you have picked up in the surrounding world are empty, though beautiful, sets of words — nothing more. Only the truths you have reached yourself are important. Someday you will understand that kindness, gentleness, tenderness, and care are manifestations of inner strength, not weakness.

Three Signs That You Are a Strong Personality

1. You calmly accept your failures. Only people with strong minds can accept their life problems and failures calmly. 2. You can forgive people. The ability to forgive people is inherent only in strong-willed individuals who can forget about problems and annoyances. 3. You acknowledge your mistakes. Mistakes happen to everyone in life, but only strong people can acknowledge them. They will not deny them or try to deceive to avoid problems and misunderstandings.

Don't Postpone Happiness!

Promise yourself to spend more time with those who give your life meaning. Cherish wonderful moments, bask in them. Do what you've always wanted to do. Climb the rock you've dreamed of climbing or learn to play the trumpet. Dance in the rain or start a new venture. Learn to love music, learn another foreign language, and rekindle the capacity for wonder that you had as a child. Don't postpone happiness for the sake of achievements.

Shake Off All Foolish Thoughts from Your Head

Shake off all foolish thoughts from your head. Stop poisoning your life with sorrow and longing for things that didn't happen or didn't come true. Leave the past in the past by firmly closing the door behind it. Stop treating the incurable and reviving what has long been dead. Throw away everything broken and remove from your life what does not bring joy. Do not cling to people who do not value you, are not afraid to hurt you, and do not respect you. Stop loving those who do not love you, who do not consider you the only one, and can easily replace you with something better, more convenient, or more profitable. Distance yourself from those who constantly undervalue your abilities, try to instill a sense of guilt in you for actions you did not commit. And remember - you have only yourself and deserve a person for whom you will be a real treasure, who will love you with all their heart and never exchange you for anyone else.

Make Time for Loved Ones

Make time to communicate with good people. Time won't find itself. Time is a strange substance. It tends to get filled with work, household chores, and hustle. Time is eternal. But people are not. Therefore, you need to learn to stretch time and insert moments of communication with those who are dear and interesting to you. Make an extra call. Ask how they are. Invite them for tea. Stretch time and find ten minutes for a walk with friends in the city after work and for a cup of tea with your sister or brother. It only seems like such moments are insignificant. But in reality, everything depends on them.

Ideal Relationships

Ideal relationships are when you see each other as idols. You are the goddess of beauty for him, he is the god of sex for you. Why so primitive? Because in fact, nothing stirs a woman's consciousness like a man infinitely admiring her. Nothing stirs a man's consciousness like a woman infinitely desiring him.

Relationships shouldn't be bad!

Relationships are about people feeling good together, developing themselves, and making joint plans. Of course, arguments are inevitable, but you need to resolve them rather than ignore them and harbor grudges. If something bothers you, you consider it abnormal or see no future, leave them. Don't sacrifice yourself! It is unlikely that things will change.

Quotes about Relationships between Men and Women

1. Remember that the best relationships are those in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other. 2. Love is the only thing that sharpens the mind, awakens creative imagination, and cleanses and frees us. 3. Being together means feeling as comfortable as when alone and as joyful as when in company. 4. When a man and a woman are drawn to each other, no one can stop them. 5. Relationships based on trust depend on our willingness to consider not only our own interests but also the interests of others.

Strange but true

Strangely enough, not everything in life needs to be watched, read, listened to, or tried. Not everyone should be let into your life. You shouldn't try to be friends with everyone. Not everything needs to be commented on, not everything needs to be planned, not all ideas and plans need to be implemented, not everything needs to be delved into and interfered with. Sometimes you need to protect your soul and consciousness. Restraint is the shortest path to yourself, to a clear understanding of things and events. The highest degree of selfishness is grabbing everything you can, just in case, so you have it. Later, you don't know what to do with it, get irritated, and find it hard to carry all the accumulated wealth. Be careful what you wish for, as it tends to come true. Mindfulness is when you stop taking what you actually don't need.

Once in the evening

One evening I realized how important it is to love women. In an underground passage, I helped an elderly lady with her bags up the stairs. She thanked me and then, hesitantly, asked me to escort her to her apartment courtyard. It turned out that my help was needed so she could get there quickly, as her husband greets her every time she leaves the house. A nearly blind old man with a cane was barely moving across the courtyard. He was on his way to meet his beloved and take her shopping bags. I immediately recalled how often I had refused to meet my girlfriend from the store or the train because I was too lazy.

Discussing Boundaries in Relationships

Everyone has the right to live as they wish. But if you are in a relationship, you must understand that each of you is responsible for actions that can affect the partner. That is why it is so important to discuss in advance what is acceptable to each person and what is not. This can save both of you from painful situations and violations of each other's personal boundaries. Most often, boundaries are violated where they have not been defined.

We love people for their flaws!

Have you ever wondered that it is precisely the combination of good qualities and flaws that determines our choice? If a person has flaws that are internally taboo to us, we cannot sympathize with them. But when it comes to true love, this law no longer applies. In healthy relationships, we accept the person with all their qualities, we simply love and enjoy the time we spend with them.

Immature Personality

Immature personalities try to change others to fit themselves. Mature personalities try to change themselves and move to self-regulation. Immature personalities try to change circumstances, mature ones adapt to them. Immature personalities want someone else to arrange their affairs, mature ones arrange them themselves. Immature personalities hope, mature ones act. Immature personalities try to control others, mature ones control themselves. Immature personalities often know, but cannot do. Mature personalities not only know, but also can do. Therefore, immature personalities criticize, while mature ones act.

Workaholism Officially Recognized as an Addiction

Workaholism has been officially recognized as an addiction - psychologists rank this condition alongside alcoholism, drug addiction, and shopping addiction. The disease can be detected in oneself when life consists only of work. According to psychologists, an endless work schedule quickly leads to burnout and resignation.