Mistakes are not the end

A mistake is not the end. It is only an opportunity to become stronger. The time has come to recover without blaming others or complaining about fate. It’s time to gently wash off the smudged mascara with warm water and prepare yourself a warming drink. Put on clean clothes and take the first measured sip. Feel the warmth rapidly spreading through your body and say: Mistakes are the road to individuality.

Principles of Correct Relationships

Your relationships should be your top priority. For them to become stronger, it is necessary to follow some principles. Here, the term relationships is used in a broad sense. Why? Because these principles are universal. They apply to romantic, business, and friendly relationships. See in the posts below.

1. Willingness to Give

One of the main problems in relationships is selfishness. It arises when one party only takes and gives nothing in return. A person who is incapable of self-sacrifice and focuses only on gaining personal benefit turns into a selfish individual. The ability to give is the foundation of relationships.

2. Willingness to Change

There are no perfect people, but everyone can strive to become better. In healthy relationships, both sides are willing to change. They understand that they are not perfect and that at times they need to change themselves rather than blame their partner. This makes the relationship stronger.

3. The ability to admit your mistakes.

You should not be afraid to admit your mistakes. Together, it is much easier to find a way to fix them.

4. Ability to Listen

Ability to listen. Learn to listen. This will help you understand your partner's position. It's much easier if you are ready to commit yourself (see point 1).

5. Mutual Support

The law of reciprocity states that when we do good for others, they will also do good for us. We reap what we sow. By supporting each other, both sides in the relationship get what they need.

6. Openness

Misunderstanding is one of the fundamental problems in relationships. That's why it's important for both parties to be open with each other. If there is something about your partner that bothers you, you should let them know. Of course, in a gentle, delicate manner.

7. Honesty

In good relationships, both parties should act according to what they think and say. Keep your promises, trust each other, and your relationship will become stronger. Of course, all these principles must be observed by both parties. But one must start with oneself, then you can build strong, reliable relationships.

Let Them Take Care of You

A simple psychological trick to improve your relationship. When you do something nice for your significant other, you start liking them even more – this effect is called the Benjamin Franklin effect. The psychological phenomenon suggests that we like people for whom we do nice things. Several couples participated in an experiment: One partner constantly showed care – said something nice, brought drinks, and so on, while the other did nothing. At the end of the experiment, the partners who did nice things valued their partners 5% more than at the beginning, according to questionnaires filled out by participants before and after the experiment. The takeaway? Make sure you let your partner take care of you. Don't insist on always paying the bill or driving yourself. Give your partner a chance to invest in you, and they will appreciate you even more.

You should praise yourself for this.

Try it right now! 1. Praise yourself for taking care of everyday tasks. You got up on time, went to work or school, made lunch. It may seem like just the usual duties of any adult. You might think, 'It's no big achievement.' But these routine tasks only seem simple at first glance. In reality, they require willpower and discipline. To complete them, you often have to deal with resistance, procrastination, fatigue, and bad moods. And if you manage to do it, you definitely deserve praise.

Praiseworthy Actions

2. Praise yourself for overcoming yourself. Let's say you are an introvert but go to a work conference where you plan to speak on stage and interact with colleagues. Or you've never played sports but start going to the gym. Or you gather the courage and tell another person an unpleasant but important truth.

Praise Yourself for This

3. Praise yourself for saying No when others try to exploit you. If some requests conflict with your interests and values, it's completely normal to say a firm 'no' to them. This way, you save time, energy, and money, and prevent others from exploiting you. A person who values their resources and doesn't waste them on others without clear necessity may be called selfish. But these accusations can be confidently addressed to those who want to shift their chores onto others and overwhelm them with inappropriate requests.

Why You Should Praise Yourself

4. Praise yourself for being able to stand up for yourself. You put rude people in their place. You don't allow yourself to be manipulated. You stand up for your interests. You fight for what is important to you. You don't swallow insults and express your dissatisfaction. You are not afraid to seem unpleasant and don't try to please everyone.

Praise Yourself for This

5. Praise yourself for respecting others' boundaries. You don't offer unsolicited criticism and advice, don't devalue or ridicule others, and choose your words carefully when expressing opinions. You respect other people's time: you don't show up late to meetings, and don't ask people to do things you can do yourself. You don't manipulate, and you speak openly and honestly about your feelings, desires, and intentions.

Praiseworthy Traits

6. For learning from your mistakes. Mistakes mean that you are not standing still and are trying to take on something that is difficult and unfamiliar to you. And if you don't look for someone to blame and don't wallow in your own sorrow, but instead analyze the causes and try to act differently next time, you will only become better from your own missteps.

Love Helps to Stay Young

Love, in turn, helps to preserve youth. You just need to want it. Dissatisfaction with life, grumbling, sadness, and anger turn anyone into a grandpa or grandma. To stay attractive to the opposite sex, radiate more positive emotions. Sincere, friendly, enthusiastic, happy people attract attention at any age.

Family is Emotional Closeness

If two people live together, that doesn't mean they are a family. And if there are children, that still doesn't make the two a family. Stamps in passports even less so. Emotional closeness makes a couple a family. If it's not there, a man and a woman can live together under one roof for years, raise children, host guests and relatives, visit each other, give each other gifts, sometimes even travel with the whole family, but still NOT be a family. They are just lonely cohabitants who live parallel lives in parallel universes. Staying in such relationships, comforting oneself with the thought that it is supposedly convenient and comfortable, means living life in vain. Because that convenience and comfort is the convenience of a grave.

Four Rituals to Get Closer

Regular joint activities strengthen the bond and create a special atmosphere in the relationship. Here are some ideas you can incorporate into your daily life: 1. Daily hugs and kisses. Start and end the day with hugs and kisses. This is a simple yet effective way to show your partner your love and care. 2. Joint dinners. Have at least one joint dinner per week without distractions. Use this time to communicate, discuss the day's events, and plan for the future.

Four Rituals to Get Closer

3. Weekly Dates. Set aside time for weekly dates to refresh the romance in your relationship. Regular dates help maintain the spark. 4. Shared Bedtime Rituals. For example, reading a book aloud, discussing the day, or simply spending time together in bed. These simple rituals will help you get closer and strengthen your bond.