Passive Aggression.

A very common manipulation among those who try to hide their true aggression but express it in a passive manner instead. It may look like sarcasm, but sarcasm does not imply humiliating others. "The dinner was really delicious, but I see there is no salt in this house." And sometimes, people using passive aggression, don't even notice obvious harm. So my advice would be either not to react to such things at all, or to respond in the same manner. "Salt is only for welcome guests in this house."

Destructive thoughts that make us unhappy.

"I don't deserve to be happy! No one will ever love me! I won't be able to achieve anything! I can't do anything!" These thoughts destroy aspirations and opportunities. Instead of taking active action, you wallow in sadness about something that hasn't even happened yet. This makes your thoughts come true. Negative thoughts always have roots, that is the situation in which they originated and which triggers them. The brain tries to hide painful memories from us, so we "forget" them. But they don't go away completely, they are stored in deeper levels and sometimes remind us of themselves in the form of automatic thoughts. Our memory stores everything: guilt, resentment, pain, shame, disappointment, etc. To work through these situations is to release the old emotions and free ourselves from their painful influence. That's what makes us happy - FREEDOM. Freedom from stereotypes, from other people's influence, from negative emotions. The freedom to be yourself and to enjoy the life you've always wanted.

How to behave correctly if a girl needs to be kept in good shape for some time?

I'm talking about situations when she is your “fallback option” and it seems that you don’t need to make close contact ... How to keep interest in it, but at the same time not go too far with your own? There is one great option for this task - funny pictures and videos. What should these pictures and videos be like? Yes, whatever you like - from cute kittens and memes on TV shows, ending with jokes on the actuality and funny (or interesting) pictures from life. Here you just need to feel out which of all this the girl likes more. However, one important point. You can’t pull with such a “keep in good shape” - more often in it, after a few weeks, she will begin to lose interest. It happens faster, sometimes they fall in love unrequitedly for six months. This is also a subtle point.

You need to leave the pathetic man.

A man is an object of strength and protection, a manifestation of care and love, not pity. • You will not be able to feel like a fragile woman next to him. • All the problems you will face will have to be solved by yourself. • Your relationship will only bring fatigue and disappointment. Usually such men try to be close to those women who have an innate sense of "motherhood". But a man is not a child.

6 ways to hurt his male ego (on purpose or not).

1. Point out his physical defects. Even if he is not perfect and does not seek to change, he does not want to hear about his shortcomings. 2. Doubt his salary. They are offended when a woman boasts that she earns more than him. If you earn less, then he may be offended that he earns little. 3. Fix it in front of other people. Most men want to believe that they know everything better than anyone. 4. Talk about other men. Any compliment or words of encouragement addressed to another man hurt his ego. 5. Talk positively about your ex. Any compliment to the former is a blow to the ego of the current. 6. Show dissatisfaction with him in bed. If a woman is not happy, this is a big blow for him.

Listening to yourself - why it's SO important.

People with low self-perception often find themselves in abusive situations. They can play the role of both the aggressor and the victim. It is difficult to say which is more horrible, though: to do it to someone else or to do it to yourself. Self-violence is also violence, isn't it? The best way to prevent it is to pay attention to your vulnerability and powerlessness as markers of own limits.

Do you believe in fairy tales?

There's one that most people believe in. It is that if you are bad and hence behave badly, you will either be punished or, what's worse, rejected. Fear of being rejected and punished is usually activated when you need to assert your limits, defend yourself, prioritize your needs, set your expectations and attitudes. Why is it so scary? Because at this point you are looking at the situation through the eyes of a frightened child, not as an adult. Who can punish the adult? Who can abandon him? Can anyone abandon a self-sufficient person who knows how to take care of her or himself and take responsibility for her/his own life? How is it possible to punish someone who knows how to set boundaries? That's right, no way.

Are you right- or left-handed?

Did you know that when people lie they involuntarily begin to move their hands, flip, touch something, etc?. Except that a left-handed person forgets to control the right hand and a right-handed person forgets to control the left hand. There are also ambidextrous, but there aren't many of them, to be honest.

Women's mistakes in relationships.

A woman projects herself onto a man and vice versa I have written more than once about the fact that men and women see the world in completely different ways. You should not evaluate the behavior and actions of a partner from your "bell tower". A woman communicates with a man with hints She cannot directly say what she wants, and he perceives her attempts to harmonize relations as an attack. Communication not established. Partners have little in common, no common topics for conversation, no interesting communication, no reason to admire each other. As a result, one of the partners begins to get bored and looks for entertainment on the side.

Lack of attention from the wife.

I have said many times that I do not condone male infidelity. But, whatever the circumstances, two are always to blame for family discord. Your partner, just like you, wants to feel loved. But when he does not receive affection, attention, trips to the "left" happen. Alas, not all couples are able to resolve conflicts peacefully. Each of the spouses stands up for their own truth. For example, a woman does not want to make concessions, because she is already busy arranging her life and raising children. While the spouse does not seek to support his beloved, but only reproaches her for indifference. The end result is betrayal.

"Zone of trust" and how to get there?

How not to grasp the immensity and get to where you are not expected? So, it starts out simple. I'm not just teaching you how to trick someone, but also how to contact with people easier. First, we make body contact. Remember, never approach head-on. It's better to do it from the shoulder and preferably the right shoulder. This way you will create a more comfortable situation, and if it is your acquaintance, you can even touch the shoulder with your hand. Done! The path to the "zone of trust" opens gradually.

Any resistance can be manipulated.

I think you've met people who put their remarks everywhere and rebut everything they see. - I bought a car! - Congratulations, but white is impractical. But you can make them resist their own resistance. - I have a case for you, but you're probably not interested in it. - Why? Tell me! And do you think this person will take the information? Of course she or he will just devour it.

Learn to speak beautifully.

This is the way to convince others. Well, do you agree that if a politician doesn't stammer or mix up words, gives examples, uses turns and epithets, he inspires much more trust than a person who reads from a paper and has problems with putting two words together. In case you don't want to believe me, then believe Aristotle! By the way, this is also a kind of manipulation called "appealing to authority," but I just want to show you that manipulation originated with mankind and it is a natural part of life. It is important to change your intonation while speaking according to the subject you discuss, and this must be done discreetly, pretending that it is not artificial but natural, because natural is capable of keeping attention and persuading, while artificial is the opposite. People are suspicious of a fake speaker, as if he were plotting something against them, just as they are suspicious of poisoned wine.

Luxurious hair.

It is impossible to describe female beauty without mentioning one of its most important components - a luxurious mop of hair. Most men like women with long curls that fall over the shoulders in soft waves. Long curls are associated with femininity and tenderness, while thick and shiny hair is associated with good health. You can be blonde, brunette, red or brown, wear a short haircut - the main thing is that the hair is healthy, shiny and well-groomed. Moreover, the word “grooming” does not mean complicated hair styling at all, but only the absence of split ends, a healthy and not overdried look. A man may not notice a slightly protruding tummy, but he will definitely pay attention to your gorgeous hair.

Beautiful back.

Many ladies are sure that the back is the least attractive part of the body in the eyes of men, but they are greatly mistaken. To understand this, it is enough to recall the numerous artistic photos in the nude style, on which graceful female backs constantly flash, naked and beautiful. Another proof is evening dresses with cutouts on the back, which can instantly turn the head of even the most persistent gentleman. The fact is that the naked female back looks very defenseless and touching, causing a man to want to surround the lady of the heart with care.

Rounded hips.

A woman shaking her hips while walking always attracts attention. This part of the body looks very seductive and attractive: it is not for nothing that ladies emphasize it with tight skirts and tight trousers. Many men like young ladies with round, rather than thin, hips. The fact is that such forms are associated with motherhood. They give a man a direct signal about a woman's ability to endure and give birth to children.

Neat belly.

Some young ladies completely in vain torment themselves in gyms, trying to turn their stomach into a kind of washboard with pronounced "cubes". If you ask the opinion of the representatives of the stronger sex, it turns out that they prefer rounded tummies, soft and pleasant to the touch. Naturally, in this case we are not talking about the folds of fat formed below the waist.

Graceful feet.

A woman without shoes always looks very defenseless and touching. She seems natural and earthy, unlike the young ladies on high heels. Everyone knows that men love to admire women's legs, but bare graceful feet will definitely attract their attention. A thin ankle looks no less attractive in men's eyes. No wonder our grandmothers said that in ancient times, impressionable young men were able to lose their senses at the sight of this part of the female body, flashed in the folds of a long dress. And the thin ankles of a sweet young lady awaken a hunter in a man, who most of all dreams of captivating her heart.

Male perception.

According to psychologists, visually men perceive the fair sex completely, indiscriminately into separate zones. They instantly appreciate beautiful women, staring after them. However, the overall picture always consists of many fragments - the same applies to female attractiveness. If men did not notice all the features of the female physique, they would turn around only after the owners of a magnificent bust and thin waist. There are other parts of the body that a man will stare at. Let's find out which ones.

A wonderful "hidden" compliment.

It can be used with a girl during a date if you are in some crowded place. Park, cafe, bar, club - it doesn't matter at all. The main thing is that there are a lot of people around. And then you can use the following phrase: “Look around, just be careful. See? All the men around look at us and envy me. They are jealous that I am talking to the most beautiful girl in this bar/restaurant/park/etc. Yes, a little vanilla. Therefore, such a phrase should be used in moments, so to speak, of a romantic intensity. That is, shortly before the kiss or at the climax of the date, if there have already been kisses.