Take care of yourself.

A combination of four types of exercise can help you stay strong and resilient: • Walking, biking and swimming strengthen the cardiovascular system. • Weightlifting strengthens and maintains muscles. • Stretching exercises help you remain flexible. • Yoga balance training helps avoid falls.

Childhood trauma.

Most women with an inferiority complex had problems with their father in childhood: he could pay attention to the girl's shortcomings and make incorrect remarks, he was stingy with emotions and showing warm feelings for his daughter. Relations with the mother also affect, because she is an example for a girl to follow. Another mistake in raising girls is when parents laugh at their daughter's imperfections or try to improve something, which in the end also turns into psychological trauma. The girl constantly focuses on her own shortcomings, and pushes her virtues into the background. She does not accept herself, just as they did not accept her and her feelings in childhood.

More than a teacher: Who is a mentor and why your child needs one.

A mentor is an authoritative adult who guides and helps a kid with defining her/himself, the interests, and abilities. The main difference from a teacher is that a mentor doesn't teach the school curriculum, but helps you find your own life and career path. Mentor's working areas: • Helping you find your weaknesses and strengths; • Defining interests; • Choosing a profession; • Combating bad habits; • Solving problems in communication with peers. Why mentoring? Mentoring is aimed at making one adjusted to life, that is to be able to think effectively, explore one's potential, and build skills to use them in some difficult situations.

The bystander effect

Why doesn't anyone come to help? The more people who observe an emergency situation, the less likely they are to offer help. Example: this experiment was conducted in 1968 by social psychologists Bibb Latane and John Darley in New York City. One college student simulated an epileptic seizure. In a situation where one passerby was present during the seizure, the student received help 85% of the time, and only 35% of the time if there was more than one person nearby.

How is apathy manifested?

Apathy is a symptom manifested through the feeling of indifference, a detached attitude to what is going on around, lack of desire for any activity, absence of a negative and positive attitude to reality, absence of emotions.

The effect of the present moment

We have difficulty relating "me today" to "me tomorrow," so we often allow ourselves to do what we like to do now, leaving "those we will be later" to take the blame for these fleeting pleasures. Many of us live as if they are timeless, so they tend to put difficult things off. Case in point: During research, 74% of shoppers, when choosing a meal for the week, preferred healthy fruit. And when they were asked to make a choice for the current day, 70% of experiment participants chose chocolate. The solution: try not to identify "you today" with "you tomorrow." Imagine that tomorrow will be another person, and remember that no one but you can do your job.

Do not try to overcome all fears.

The main mistake: “First I will deal with fears, then I will begin to act.” If you have the impression that only desperate brave men, adventurers and lovers of shaking the good old values ​​\u200b\u200bare acting at once, then this is not true. Or rather, not all. The truth is only about values, because it is just useful to test them for strength. In fact, everyone is afraid. Waiting for the moment when it will not be scary is not worth it. Surprisingly, change often begins with fear. With great fear that life will pass, and we will not even give ourselves a chance to fight for a dream.

Where to get energy?

Well, there is no single answer to this question, neither for me nor for anyone else, because there're different sources of power for each of us. How to unleash your source of energy? Recognize the slightest signs of lively interest in whatever it is. When something makes your eyes shine, it's that very real interest that connects the one to her or his living creative genius. The habit of gathering these little lights will open up access to inner resources.

Read paper books.

I agree that a house full of books is a dust collector. But the results of numerous studies show that information from paper books is remembered and analyzed much better than electronic or audiobooks. Why? The feature of our brain is that the information that is received by all the senses is better remembered. We hold a book in our hands, flip through its pages, smell it, feel the paper by our fingers, look at the cover and illustrations, and, of course, read.

Healthy selfishness.

Learn to think first about your needs, desires, dreams, and only after that spend the remaining time on others. This will help you save energy to achieve your goals and weed out everything that is secondary.

Limit the flow of negativity.

To become a better person, you mustn't let negative information or destructive people into your life. They ruin harmony, make you doubt your strength, and upset you. The concept of NEGATIVE is what people assess as something bad, unpleasant, hard, adverse, owing to psychological reasons. That is, sometimes intentional is not deliberate, not generated in the mind. Unkind criticism, raging, blaming and self-blaming, hurting oneself, seeing everything in a black color - all this is negativity.

What is emotional betrayal and why is it dangerous?

Emotional cheating is when a person is married or in a serious relationship, but gives someone else more time, energy and feelings than their partner. With this "friend" he shares his innermost thoughts, he prefers to turn to him for support, warmth and emotional strokes. In other words, looking for emotions on the side. Such an emotional connection is also a kind of betrayal, albeit without sex. Because this "just friendship" over time can easily end in bed.

Negative perfectionism

The main danger for a perfectionist is his tendency to get hung up on trifles. That is, focusing on some insignificant detail, he begins to unrestrainedly spend time on it. How to learn to notice and stop such behavior in time? Method 1. Mini-plans. At the beginning of each hour, write down the tasks you want to complete in that hour. At the end of the hour, summarize what you have done and what you have not. Method 2. "Lighthouse". Place a visible object near your workspace to remind you to keep moving forward. Method 3. External signal. As such, you can use a timer call, a pop-up window or a reminder in the organizer. What to do if you catch yourself stuck, but don't know how to cut it off? In this case, try answering three questions: And does it really need to be done? Can it be done differently? Can it be made easier? Many “very important details” turn out to be not so important after checking.

Taking care of your mental health:

▫️ Meditate for 5 minutes; ▫️ Go outside; ▫️ Read a book for 30 minutes; ▫️ Name 5 things you like about yourself; ▫️ Be grateful to yourself for where you are now.

Useful pretending.

When learning a new skill, pretend you are a professional. Imagine the desired image in detail, create an entourage, and prepare a speech. This useful game will allow you to stay motivated and learn faster.

Affirmations for personal growth.

▫️ I succeed in everything I do. ▫️ I am immensely grateful for the life I live. ▫️ I love myself from the inside out. ▫️ I love myself, no matter what others think. ▫️ I am the only one who can define my self-worth, and I am worthy of my dreams. ▫️ I free myself from negative thoughts, especially negative thoughts about myself. ▫️ I am healthy and full of energy. ▫️ I accept myself as I am.

Life teaches us to combine the extremes:

- love people but be indifferent, - do good but wait for evil, - hope for the best but prepare for the worst, - believe in people but trust no one, - be optimistic but have a realistic outlook, - live with an open heart but let no one in. Оne part of you is supposed to love the world and admire it, while the other one is supposed to always remain alert and cautious.

Teenage habit of some men.

I'm talking about how some "offer to meet" or in some other way are interested in whether the girl wants to start a relationship. Why is this a mistake? Because in this way you demonstrate that you do not understand women at all. Okay, I'll exaggerate. It's just that this "announcement" is not necessary - they are needed for larger "shifts" in your relationship. For example, the issue of living together, getting to know the family, and so on. The question “let’s meet” also demonstrates the guy’s insecurity. “Does she really like me, and is everything in order with us, or can she clarify ???” We do not need these moans! The girl will feel this uncertainty and may even say “bye-bye” after such. And if you want to move to the next stage of the relationship, then don't worry - it will happen without an official announcement.

Intentional mistake.

If you need to build a relationship with someone, I advise you to make a deliberate mistake so that the person needs to correct you. After that, act out admiration for how the interlocutor accurately noticed your flaw and tactfully pointed it out. My experiment showed that the object of manipulation after such a technique would think: “Wow, she (a) knows how to accept criticism and relies on my knowledge. We will continue to communicate."

Don't forget about the law of diminishing returns.

Decided on the impossible? Excellent. Then you must know what barriers you will encounter along the way. One of them, which is often unsettling (if you've ever been on a diet, remember how easy it is at first and difficult afterward) is the law of diminishing returns. The point is simple: the further you advance, the harder it is for you to get better. If suddenly it becomes harder for you than before, then you are on the right track and much closer to the goal than before. Just don't give up.