Common ploy.

We are frequently pushed to take actions that are advantageous to the manipulators. A confident intonation and a commanding tone do everything for them. For example: "You can take my word for it, that's better." The best defense I can advise is not to remain silent to phrases like, "And who exactly would benefit?", "What do you mean by that phrase?"

5 MISTAKES DUE TO WHICH A WOMAN DOES NOT HAVE A MAN.

Excessive requirements. It is necessary to look not for an ideal, but for a person who is close in spirit. It doesn't have to be rich or handsome. Mutual understanding, closeness of interests and aspirations is important. Loss of femininity. Not all representatives of the fair sex devote enough time to their appearance, figure, and behavior. Uncertainty, low self-esteem. When a person does not love himself, it is felt at the subconscious level and causes reciprocal emotions. Career focus. These ladies have a lot of fans, but the relationship does not last too long. They are married to work. Negative experience. If a girl gets burned once, she is careful and subconsciously pushes the guys away from her.

TYPES OF LOVERS OF MARRIED MEN.

Holiday girl. She loves to party and is always on the lookout for someone who can pay her bill at the club and receive her in a "gift" package in return. "Blind" lover. Such women often become victims of deception, unwittingly becoming one of the sides of the love triangle. The man hid the fact that he already has a wife. Grey mouse She has low self-esteem and does not believe that someone will ever meet who will love her. On the offer of a married man to become a mistress, she responds willingly, wanting at least sometimes to be needed by someone. Born lover She knows that he is married, but this suits her, so she does not seek to insist on breaking up the marriage and moving into the status of a wife. Huntress. The hunter aims at the wife's place. She starts a relationship exclusively with a promising man.

Don't stop.

Immediately after voicing something important or the information that you want to instill in the interlocutor, move on to another topic. This is necessary in order to prevent him from trying to comprehend the information he has just received and thus confront it. Oftentimes I use a phrase like: "Let's continue..." and move on to another topic.

Changing circumstances.

This is a very common manipulation in sales and business. I won't beat around the bush, you'll see the example right now. During a presentation, you are suddenly told that your competitors have a better offer, but if you change your mind now, the deal will happen. They can also offer you a bonus, or reduce the price a little, but tell you that you have to make a decision here and now. The remedy is very clear: don't make hasty decisions or conclusions, and always remember that you are probably being manipulated.

If you are betrayed, it means you are taken to a higher energy level.

That is, the person becomes free to move on. When a person quits the old life program, the new opportunities open up at the same time. When a person passes the pain threshold, the new possibilities open up to her or him. Going through physical pain - the astral guide opens, going through emotional pain - the mental guide opens. Mental disappointment opens the spiritual door, so spiritual disappointment leads to deeper worlds and so on. That is why TRANSFORMATION is a challenge to your higher self. Being betrayed means being put into the hands of the Universe.

Sometimes a girl needs to be given "revelations".

You know, such sweet confessions of sympathy. But you don't have to go overboard with it. The emotion "oh how cute, he's so honest and cool" - we need to create sympathy. What can act as such a "revelation"? Well, for example, a story about your dreams. Or rather, that she dreamed about you. The girl will be terribly curious about WHAT she was doing in your dream - involvement is guaranteed. What could this dream be? Yes, whatever. From “We went on a picnic and a bear attacked us from the forest” to “we were lying on the beach and there was a strong wind that took your untied swimsuit away.” But here, of course, you need to focus on the level of your communication.

Favorite female manipulation.

I think you guys can guess. Girls love to make us feel guilty. Some trifle women easily turned into a problem and inserted this idea into my head. And it doesn't matter what exactly triggered this problem. Even a glass broken by the girl herself, she can interpret as your fault. The purpose of this manipulation is background psychological pressure, in order to take control over a man. Everything is terribly simple. How to deal with it? Just do not allow to do this, nip in the bud. In a calm tone, let her know that you see this manipulation and perceive it as disrespect for yourself. Explain to her that if you try to repeat it, the conversation will be different.

FLIRT WITH OTHER MEN.

No, I am not pushing you to cheat, because there will be no sense from it anyway. But light flirting and the opportunity to feel beautiful and desirable again will help to cheer up. Allow yourself to exchange a couple of remarks with a colleague or chat with an old friend on social networks. How else, if not through communication with another, shake up your feminine and remember that you are, why love? In 99% of 100%, you will get bored after a couple of hours, but the pleasant aftertaste will remain.

ABOUT WHAT FEMALE TRICKS IT IS BETTER TO FORGET FOREVER.

• Excessive flattery and praise of a man in the hope of getting something. • Manipulation with sex, sex bans, or grandiose promises. • Deliberate stupidity, although many men still find female "sweetness" in this. • Suspension when he doesn't do what you want. • Drawing on emotions through jealousy of other men. Forget those dirty tricks once and for all.

The world needs you!

A lively, emotional, strange and imperfect person… We're all trying to look like something, but no one needs a look. The world needs a soul. A point. Something alive. And the living is not something ideal, like a monument or a painting. The living is not a two—dimensional plane, where there is only one facade. The living is a river, changeable landscapes and currents. The world needs your mistakes, because mistakes say that you LIVE. The world needs your uniqueness. The world doesn't need your diploma and regalia — it needs your experience. Your hands. Head. Heart. The ability to delve into a subject and understand it. Don’t try to act like someone else, because the world needs you.

YOUR BRAIN also has a WORK SCHEDULE

Are you already familiar with the formula for optimal brain performance? You won't believe it, but you already know. Moreover, you have already worked according to it. And this is the schedule according to which school education is built. It turns out that the duration of lessons and recess is very close to the formula of optimal brain productivity. Scientists from the University of Toronto, trying to find the best model of lunch breaks for office employees, found out that the brain's performance is able to reach its peak with short—term frequent breaks than on rare and long ones. Scientists explained this by the fact that the brain has a small reserve of energy, which requires replenishment every hour. The most OPTIMAL SCHEDULE is 52 minutes of active work and 17 minutes of active rest.

Sharpen your intuition.

Sometimes, in life we face a difficult situation and it is necessary to make a choice. We listen to ourselves, but our inner self is stubbornly silent. There is an effective technique for gaining insight. Here are the steps for the technique. Step 1. Formulate a task for your intuition (write it down, draw it, say it). Step 2. Shift your focus to things that are not related to your task. Step 3. Change your state of consciousness - sleep, meditate. Step 4. Go back to the original task, the inner voice will lead you in the right direction. In other words, you sort of load the task into the brain, but give your unconscious time to work with it. There may be a situation when a decision can come to you in a dream, because a DREAM is a projection of our unconscious, it is it that rules the ball. It is not surprising that many insights people see in a dream.

COMPARE YOURSELF WITH OTHERS: GOOD OR BAD?

This habit is laid down in childhood. First, parents compare children, put someone as an example to them. Then the child himself sees that someone's toys are better and more expensive than his. Further more: the classmate's hair is longer, the dress is prettier. And so all my life! If you compare yourself all the time not in your favor, then envy, resentment, anger will never let you enjoy life. It is better to compare yourself only with yourself yesterday. But there is also a useful comparison. If you compare yourself with someone and get motivated to move forward, this is a resource. You just see your potential in another person, not considering that something is worse than him.

IS IT WORTH LIVING WITH AN ALCOHOLIC HUSBAND?

On the one hand, the question is strange, the answer suggests itself. It would be necessary to run away from such happiness without looking back. On the other hand, things are not so simple. If you have already connected your life with a man who drinks heavily, then you definitely got into a co-dependent relationship. Marriage with a drinking man is a complete disappointment and bitterness. In fact, the wives of drunkards adapt and somehow live, or rather exist. Codependent relationships can last for years.

Phrases with connotations and what to do about it?

Think about what they really mean: ▫️ CALM DOWN. "Stop feeling the way you're feeling right now." This phrase expresses an unwillingness to talk to you about your pain or anxiety, devaluing your emotions. ▫️ YOU UPSET ME. "You don't live up to my expectations." The phrase suggests that your particular action/reaction goes against what he or she imagines and expects from you. ▫️ WHAT DID YOU EXPECT? "Accept the situation as I (or someone else) accepts it." In this case, you are being asked to take responsibility for the other person's choice of how they perceive the situation. So what to do when you hear one of these phrases addressed to you? Recognize that this way people try to impose their vision on you thus forcing you to give up personal responsibility and personal choice for what happens to you.

Do you like to draw in the margins?

Have you ever noticed? Listening to a boring speaker on the phone or sitting in a useless meeting, sometimes, we almost unconsciously begin to draw some patterns, flowers or geometric shapes on paper. These drawings can tell a lot about a person, his state of mind and actual needs. For example, the thicker the lines, the more a person is focused on a particular thought. Multiple shading tells about fixation on a certain moment. And the desire to draw geometric shapes says about the desire to systematize thoughts. Do you draw spikes, teeth and other sharp objects? So, you are definitely irritated or even angry. Do you draw a bee honeycomb? You are in dire need of peace and harmony. Drawing intertwining circles signs that you are in search of understanding and friendship...

Like attracts like

Low energy attracts low energy, high energy attracts high energy. Low energy feelings include anger, hatred, envy, shame, guilt, and related thoughts. They not only make you weak, but also attract similar feelings! By replacing low energy thoughts with uplifting ones, that is: of love, harmony, peace, and joy, you will begin to attract higher energies and vibrations to yourself, which you can then share with others. These higher energies will empower you and help you stop low-potential thoughts, just as light dispels darkness. If you can love yourself, you can attract higher energies, which will help you change internally.

Happiness and how to realize that you are happy?

There is no universal recipe for happiness. People look for other people's strategies, trying to apply them to their lives, but other people's lives are not ours, and we are different to the person smiling in the picture. Therefore! The recipe for happiness is unique for everyone. Otherwise, absolutely everyone would already be meditating, writing gratitude journals and being happy... What to do: try different strategies for achieving happiness in practice (I will share them here), explore yourself, understand yourself.

Self-care in action.

Getting a good night's sleep: getting the necessary number of sleeping hours each night is a basic principle of self-care. Physical activity: physical activity increases serotonin levels, which improves your mood. Relaxation: the ability to relax is a skill that runs through all self-care practices and is directly linked to reduced stress levels. Healthy eating: a well-balanced diet is a great habit and method of taking care of your health. It is important to remember that the term "self-care" has the word "self" in it. It is a practice that you carry out for yourself, and no one else will do it for you.