Intimate relationships at work - is it possible or better not to?

Quite a difficult question. Having an affair at work is perhaps one of the easiest ways to start a relationship. And on in fact, if corporate ethics has not imposed a serious taboo on this, I don’t see anything wrong with that. You just need to go for it after weighing all the pros / cons and evaluating WHAT the girl expects from the relationship. Is she ready to just sleep or does she want to "bite" into the possibility of cohabitation (or even worse). A colleague who is offended by you is a hefty thorn in your career in this place. So, be extremely careful. As for the rapprochement itself, everything is much simpler here (that's why many people get to know each other at work). The connection is established, a common language is found - you just need to make a few amenities like morning coffee, a funny postcard or a small vase with flowers on her table (so that colleagues do not understand anything). Then you can call for a date

Signs that your marriage is over.

Little things bother you. You understand that everything in a man makes you angry. The slightest oversight leads to a quarrel: you no longer agree to turn a blind eye to such trifles as an open tube of toothpaste or a poorly washed cup. You no longer discuss plans for the future. You talk about upcoming events with anyone, but not with him. There is not a single desire left that would motivate us to make joint plans. You avoid conflict. Whenever an argument starts, someone is sure to withdraw into themselves and cease to maintain a dialogue.

What to do if the husband does not want a child?

Don't push the man. There are ladies who are ready to start conception as soon as they have played the wedding. Let your loved one get used to the role of a husband first. Visit families with children. Sometimes men exaggerate too much the problems that arise after the birth of a toddler. Remember your priorities. Let the man know that motherhood will not become a stumbling block in your relationship with him. Pay attention to your beloved, arrange romantic evenings for him, say compliments, praise for any achievements. Plan your baby only together. And nothing else. Alas, some girls decide to get pregnant without informing their husbands. Girls, it doesn't work like that! A man must be ready both morally and financially.

If a man destroys your personal space.

How to act if you understand that your partner is simply “choking” you? Often we do not notice the line where care ends and total control begins. In fact, the neglect of personal space in a relationship is the psychology of an abuser. Numerous calls with questions: “When did you have lunch?”, “What time will you be back?”, “Don't forget to write when you get to the office” - this is not a concern, this is violence! If you feel like you're in a vice, don't take it! First of all, make your position clear. Let your husband know that you are a grown woman and do not need such overprotection. Alas, in most cases the abuser ignores such requests. In reality, he is not interested in anyone's boundaries. If all attempts to rectify the situation have failed, the only way out is separation. And in order to no longer fall for the hook of a toxic partner, create a strong alliance according to your own rules.

How to gain the upper hand in an argument?

Very easy. Start accusing your opponent of something. "You just don't respect me!" "Why are you raising your voice?!" "You don't understand me!" The main thing I advise is to say phrases of this kind as calmly as possible. And the cherry on the cake is your beautiful French exit, that is, suddenly turn around and leave without saying goodbye after one of the phrases. And no, you will not look like a fool.

Daring.

Who of us hasn't fallen for such scams just to prove that he or she can? Everyone has been bait in this way, even me. However, even this manipulation can be carried out differently, including so that it is followed without even blinking an eye. "Look, I don't think you're up to this job, why don't you ask someone else?" In this case, it would be just a challenge. And how about proving yourself to others⁉️ So you can start practicing at home, and then you can catch bigger fish.

Watch the head position carefully!

If a person tilts or turns their head when asked a direct question, it most likely indicates that she or he is lying. I say "most likely" because it is not always a reliable indicator. However, more often than not, the head tilts back or turns to the side just before the question. But also don't forget to watch the facial expressions.

Leaning to expose the liar.

- Did you take my computer yesterday? - No, I didn't. And now let's ask the same question again, while leaning toward the opponent. And if you're sitting, it's more effective to stand up and ask the question while leaning over the interlocutor. Why does it work? Because it's psychological pressure and breaking social boundaries. This is how the brain under pressure begins to produce truth. So I advise you to try this method, you can start with children if you feel they are lying.

Guys, don't you forget to tease girls?

This is one of the most important elements of flirting! Of course, teasing and joking should not be rude and not malicious, but as it were ... Playing like with a cat. How? Noticing the awkwardness that the girl allows or pinning up some bright features. Just do it with love! And here it makes no sense to give specific examples. In addition, that banter should be individual (I explained why above). Templates still won't give you the most important "ingredient" for banter - a sense of humor! And I have already given you more than one recipe for nurturing this feeling, but in the context of banter there is one ideal option.

Note to the guys: find YOUR place!

Whether it's a coffee shop, a chocolate shop, a bar, a restaurant, a hookah bar... No matter! The main property is that you can come to this institution with a girl. What for? To create high significance in relation to you, and you, in turn, feel maximum confidence. After all, a nice hostess greets you at the entrance, the bartender asks how you are doing, and the waiters know what you prefer. This is an ideal situation for you to "grow up" in the eyes of a girl - that is, become more attractive. How to achieve this? Go to this place on your own or with a company for a few weeks. Of course, the more time spent there, the better the result. But even this period is enough not to shake over the menu and not be afraid to call the waiter.

If you are underestimated.

It means that: ⠀• They assert themselves at your expense. ⠀• Your value is difficult to endure and digest for someone's weak consciousness. ⠀• Someone doesn't want to change when they meet you.

4 types of men with whom there will be problems.

1. Infantile man with low self-esteem He will not take responsibility, does not seek to help, protect. He needs to be helped, looked after. 2. Counter-addicted (fearful of intimacy) emotionally distant, successful and attractive He is afraid to fall into the "love network", but that is why he wants to win. Relations with such a man are filled with constant fear: “Something is wrong again?”, “Am I really not trying hard for him?”. 3. Narcissistic and charismatic, overly self-loving He exaggerates his abilities and achievements, he is convinced that everyone around him is envious. The narcissist has poor control over his emotions, is impulsive, touchy. 4. Cynic, aggressor, sadist and psychopath At the beginning of the relationship, he is "white and fluffy". But there are "bells": ironic remarks, swing "I love - indifferent." Lies, uses the "gaslighting" technique.

Keeping personal boundaries breeds trust.

Even the happiest and most exemplary spouses need to move away from each other in time. Men want to go to football, women want to go shopping with their girlfriends. This makes it possible to refresh emotions, “reset”, so as not to finally get stuck in a routine. But it happens that women practice active intrusion into the personal space of their man. And this is a sign of emotional dependence! Freedom is equally important for both partners. When you do not leave your spouse alone, control his every step, he thinks that you do not trust him. Hence conflicts and forced separation

The best defense against manipulation.

Our brain has a kind of initial setup that protects us from manipulations, and this barrier keeps us from getting manipulated in some cases. However, there's a number of much more cunning people who try to hack all these mechanisms. Let's take marketing and sales departments, for example. Everything in a regular store is used against the customer. Narrow passages, loud music, all of that push the defense settings and turn off the controls. And the final blow comes from the salesperson who forces you to make a quick decision. I advise avoiding immediate and impulsive decisions. And the greatest defense against negativity propagated by media is media education.

Passive Aggression.

A very common manipulation among those who try to hide their true aggression but express it in a passive manner instead. It may look like sarcasm, but sarcasm does not imply humiliating others. "The dinner was really delicious, but I see there is no salt in this house." And sometimes, people using passive aggression, don't even notice obvious harm. So my advice would be either not to react to such things at all, or to respond in the same manner. "Salt is only for welcome guests in this house."

Destructive thoughts that make us unhappy.

"I don't deserve to be happy! No one will ever love me! I won't be able to achieve anything! I can't do anything!" These thoughts destroy aspirations and opportunities. Instead of taking active action, you wallow in sadness about something that hasn't even happened yet. This makes your thoughts come true. Negative thoughts always have roots, that is the situation in which they originated and which triggers them. The brain tries to hide painful memories from us, so we "forget" them. But they don't go away completely, they are stored in deeper levels and sometimes remind us of themselves in the form of automatic thoughts. Our memory stores everything: guilt, resentment, pain, shame, disappointment, etc. To work through these situations is to release the old emotions and free ourselves from their painful influence. That's what makes us happy - FREEDOM. Freedom from stereotypes, from other people's influence, from negative emotions. The freedom to be yourself and to enjoy the life you've always wanted.

How to behave correctly if a girl needs to be kept in good shape for some time?

I'm talking about situations when she is your “fallback option” and it seems that you don’t need to make close contact ... How to keep interest in it, but at the same time not go too far with your own? There is one great option for this task - funny pictures and videos. What should these pictures and videos be like? Yes, whatever you like - from cute kittens and memes on TV shows, ending with jokes on the actuality and funny (or interesting) pictures from life. Here you just need to feel out which of all this the girl likes more. However, one important point. You can’t pull with such a “keep in good shape” - more often in it, after a few weeks, she will begin to lose interest. It happens faster, sometimes they fall in love unrequitedly for six months. This is also a subtle point.

You need to leave the pathetic man.

A man is an object of strength and protection, a manifestation of care and love, not pity. • You will not be able to feel like a fragile woman next to him. • All the problems you will face will have to be solved by yourself. • Your relationship will only bring fatigue and disappointment. Usually such men try to be close to those women who have an innate sense of "motherhood". But a man is not a child.

6 ways to hurt his male ego (on purpose or not).

1. Point out his physical defects. Even if he is not perfect and does not seek to change, he does not want to hear about his shortcomings. 2. Doubt his salary. They are offended when a woman boasts that she earns more than him. If you earn less, then he may be offended that he earns little. 3. Fix it in front of other people. Most men want to believe that they know everything better than anyone. 4. Talk about other men. Any compliment or words of encouragement addressed to another man hurt his ego. 5. Talk positively about your ex. Any compliment to the former is a blow to the ego of the current. 6. Show dissatisfaction with him in bed. If a woman is not happy, this is a big blow for him.

Listening to yourself - why it's SO important.

People with low self-perception often find themselves in abusive situations. They can play the role of both the aggressor and the victim. It is difficult to say which is more horrible, though: to do it to someone else or to do it to yourself. Self-violence is also violence, isn't it? The best way to prevent it is to pay attention to your vulnerability and powerlessness as markers of own limits.