The mirror technique.

People tend to trust those who look like them. The following logic works here: familiar means understandable, understandable means trustworthy. Look closely at the interlocutor, listen to his intonations, pay attention to the manner of speaking and gesticulating. This rule also applies to nonverbal communication. Your opponent jokes — joke in response, tells something confidentially — listen with participation, gestures — repeat his gestures. This also works with a large audience, just study your listeners as much as possible before the performance

Girls' favorite pastime...

Do not reply to a message for a long time. Today we will not talk about how this affects the balance of significance, about the nature of this phenomenon and how this demonstrates the degree of her sympathy for a man. I want to tell you just one thing - you have the COMPLETE right to do exactly the same. Let him wait for the dumb, let him get nervous. Why let a girl taste your attention right away. We do not give ourselves away right away - we observe a certain mystery.

Thanks to the man.

A man, bringing something into the house (mammoth, money, prey) expects payment from all households. It is this component that is often lacking in the family. The man feels betrayed. He worked hard, brought home and threw his achievements, as if into a furnace or into an abyss. So what? Who will appreciate? Lover, of course! Just learn to say the word "THANK YOU" to your husband. It should come more from your soul than from your mouth. Fuck knows how it works, but men distinguish "thank you" from "thx". Teach the children to say this word to dad.

How to get out of a fight.

Stop blaming. Each accusation and presentation of claims only exacerbates the situation. Express dissatisfaction calmly, wanting not to injure, but to sort it out. Cool down. Do not need too much passion, on the contrary, give each other more air. There is no right in the situation. You must understand that everything you are in now, you created both. Speak kind words. No matter how hard it is, leave room for nice words. You can radically change the situation by saying words that you haven’t said for a long time, praising or thanking.

How to get the conversation back on track?

Suppose you need to discuss an important issue with someone. But you feel that the interlocutor is trying to "weasel out" from the topic you had in mind. How does one delicately get the conversation back on track? Lean back in your chair and take a break. As soon as you feel their undivided attention, tell him that you met directly to discuss another issue. Name it and tactfully but persistently ask the interlocutor to return to the discussion of the intended subject.

Continue to assert yourself in this skill:

▫️ Give yourself the right to act how you plaese. Act in your own interests. ▫️Practice saying "no" to strangers – consultants in stores, waiters, neighbors. ▫️Choose an acceptable form of refusal for yourself. Sharp, soft, playful or serious – there are many options. ▫️The fear of rejection is the fear that you will be judged. You very well might be, so what? It's just someone's opinion... Of course, there will be people who will not accept you and your "no", even your loved ones will not like it. But those to whom you are important, who want to be close, respect you, will stay close.

Learn to say no.

A person who finds it difficult to refuse others is a very USEFUL person. You can dump a lot of work on them. They will never refuse anything for their loved ones. They will always help out, assist and lend you money. What should you do? It's worth starting off with your first, very small "NO"!

The language of love is time.

When you spend time with your partner, you are giving them your attention. Therefore, you give away part of your energy and life. But feel the difference. Being close and being together are two different things. Some couples can spend hours in the same apartment, but exist, as if at different poles. Advice: Put away all gadgets, forget about urgent calls. Pay attention to each other. Someone will want to arrange a romantic candlelit dinner. Some choose to ride bikes. Still others will prefer to go on climbing courses. Choose what unites you! Love language is when you do something together. This is how pleasant memories are accumulated, which later help to strengthen the union.

Set up your own life.

Personal life is not a husband and three children. This is what you are without them. The thoughts that your brain produces. The books you read. The food you eat and cook. The people you communicate with. Do you understand how many? That's why he loves you. And they love you as long as you love yourself: you take care of your body, pump your brain, communicate with the world.

What does a person prone to codependency look like?

Actually, a person like that is not difficult to recognize at all. A codependent person in a relationship will inevitably try to: ▫️make their partner happy even if it goes against their principles. ▫️ignore their own desires, wants and needs for the sake of the other. ▫️adapt to their partner's mood. ▫️avoid conflicts at all costs. ▫️if you ask them: "What do you want to do today?", their answer would sound something like: "I don't care, what do you want to do?" Do you recognize yourself? No? Well, then I'm happy for you. However, if you see yourself in some of these, then you should think about working on it.

How to WANT things?

Why does the question about how to clearly express wishes arise, and why isn't it always enough just to want something? It's simpler than it seems, and I'm afraid I'll disappoint you by saying that there's no magic in it. Well, almost no. It's not about meticulously describing your desires as an experienced lawyer. The point is that when we think about our wish in detail and reflect on how clear and comprehensible it is, when we imagine it, write it down on paper, etc., we actually fix our attention on it. Our mind begins to RECOGNIZE our desires, to focus on them, so that we linger on it and it doesn't just get lost in the endless stream of our thoughts. It's time! Things are going to be different now! Just put your mind to your desire.

The best emotion of manipulators.

And that is anger. After all, it's much easier to respond to aggression with aggression than to hold it in check. Well, agree with me, isn't that right? However, it's easier to manipulate you that way. Firstly, that's how a person subjugates you, and secondly, makes a fool out of you. This is the main goal of an aggressor, and usually he or she repeats this trick again and again. The easiest thing you can do is to leave or not respond to the aggression at all and try to have a constructive dialogue.

If you want to psych someone out, look at her or him fixedly.

If you are trying to find out some important information from the conversation but feel that one is evading the truth, then keep a straight eye contact until she or he reveals all the cards. Eye gazing is a subtle psychological trick that is a veiled form of attack. Staring into one's eyes during the conversation, you challenge him/her in some way. So, the victim subconsciously experiences fear and understands that in order to overcome it, she or he needs to tell the truth.

Remember that everything can be changed.

There are almost no situations that cannot be replayed in any way. Even if you make a decision that will change your life, you can change the consequences of it. For example, an apartment, if you don’t like it, you can sell it and then buy a new one. In the same way, you can change not only the place of residence, but also work and profession. Do not forget that one decision in any case is always followed by another. No matter how things turn out, you will continue to act based on new circumstances.

The question that puts almost every second man into a stupor

"Are you flirting with me???" Here, for some reason, a previously successful guy begins to defend himself against such accusations. “No, I just… and anyway… I don’t know why you thought that…” and stuff like that. But why are you giving back at all, huh? Aren't we allowed to flirt with a girl - it's against the law? After all, it is obvious that you pay attention to it not in vain and you want the dialogue to continue. The girl is just testing you with such a question. Unsure of himself and his man will retreat and her opinion of him will immediately fall. And the confident one will just say “yes, and I have plans to continue doing this” or something like that.

Rules of joint rest.

Whether you're heading out on a vacation with your family or flying to a resort with your boyfriend, there are a few things you can do to help your relationship. 1. Consider the interests of everyone. Try to jointly find a place to relax where it would be interesting for both of you. 2. Don't leave for a long time. If a man offers a joint vacation, and you have just started dating and do not yet live together, then it would be wiser to leave for a week, no more. Suddenly you do not like to share life? The impression of the vacation will be hopelessly spoiled. 3. Behave naturally. No need to be capricious and find fault with service, food and other trifles. Or you don’t have to pretend to be a caring mom, worried about whether a man has eaten or frozen in the sea, either - this will lead to the extinction of passion in a relationship.

Panic disorder theories.

Popular theories and hypotheses concerning the development of this disorder include: Catecholamine theory — based on the fact that panic attacks are associated with increased levels of catecholamines, namely adrenaline. It acts as a stimulant that causes vasoconstriction, rapid heart rate, and stimulation of the nervous system. Genetic hypothesis — people whose relatives had experienced panic attacks had a 10% risk of developing the disorder compared to 2.1% among people in the control group. Psychoanalytic theory — based on the assumption that anxiety and panic attacks are caused by a person's conflict with her/himself, with their needs. Behavioral theory — assumes that panic attacks are initially caused by external causes. For example, a fast heartbeat is provoked by the particular life-threatening situation. Subsequently, the reaction gets remembered and occurs even if there's no any threat.

Be grateful for any experience.

In hard times, being grateful for the lessons you've learned instead of feeling sorry for yourself is quite difficult, but it's the only way you can open up to new experiences and not repeat your mistakes. Grief attracts grief, denial prevents us from moving, but gratitude pulls us out of the negative emotional situation and shows new opportunities. It's a kind of release. Like a mantra - it works if you believe in it.

Skills worth developing.

• Live in the moment. Living in large cities, we are rarely “there”. Most of the time we don't keep track of what we're doing and it turns into a background activity. • Be honest with yourself. It is especially difficult to admit that you were wrong, but everyone makes mistakes, without exception. The worst thing you could do is not be aware of them and not learn any lessons.

Recommendations for self-education

1. Prepare a learning atmosphere. The environment is much more important than you think. What you surround yourself with can either encourage the desire to learn, or do the opposite. 2. Note helpful material. This skill is called active reading. After reading the book, reread all the selected information — doing so will help memorize and not forget the general plot or idea of the book. 3. Apply carious learning techniques Cross-training is extremely useful. Even if you're crazy about books, don't get hung up on them: • Read magazines; • Watch documentaries; • Read articles on the topic. 4. Don't believe everything you read. Even if you find the most convenient sources to study from, you should never think that all the information in them is 100% authentic. When you read different textbooks, some of them may contradict each other. Do an in-depth study to find the silver lining.