The Destructive Love

From the relationships between people, it is clear how we sometimes destroy each other under the guise of love. How often those we love would say: "Love me less, but let me breathe! I am captive! Your love is destructive." Yet there is another kind of love, love that does not destroy. Love is freedom. Freedom for the one who loves and the one who is loved.

When He Protects and Respects You

When you rest your head on his shoulder and in a moment feel the weight of his head on yours, when he gently and carefully brushes stray strands of hair away from your face, smiles, and kisses your forehead. When he holds your hand while crossing the street and stands like a wall in front of you if there's a big dog ahead. When he's angry but still covers you with a blanket so you don't get cold, and lies next to you even if it's uncomfortable, but won't wake you. When he understands and accepts your choices, even if they go against his principles and norms, and subtly, only through personal example, makes you and your lifestyle better.

Hugs Before Sleep Reduce Stress and Anxiety - Study

Sleeping together with tactile contact enhances the feeling of closeness and security. Participants who hugged more often before sleep reported lower stress levels and higher relationship satisfaction. Even simple body contact, like touching legs, has beneficial psychological effects.

Fight for a man? A firm no.

Fight for a man? A firm no. Awaken in him the beast that craves your scent and taste, obsessed with you, hungry for you, faithfully and eagerly following your trail. Either you captivate him so much that he opens the hunting season, turning into a noble predator whose goal is to win and conquer you at any cost, or you become a victim, and he uses you as a toy for amusement, which he actually doesn't care about at all. Some women consider the pinnacle of seduction to be the primitive ability to get under a man's shirt, into his pants, phone, or wallet. And only those who can reach into a man's heart, soul, and dreams while remaining unattainable are the rarity for which he is willing to do anything.

A Few Rules for Good Relationships

1. Support and praise people at every opportunity. Your approval acts like fertilizer for a person's growth. 2. Never mock or humiliate anyone. 3. Speak only good about people. If you have nothing positive to say about someone, it’s better to remain silent. 4. Be attentive to the affairs of others, and you will always find a reason to praise them without flattery.

Several Rules for Good Relationships

5. Focus on the positive qualities of a person. If they are not yet noble and wise enough, then see them as such a person. And this person will definitely want to live up to it. 6. Do not criticize people. However, if you do start to criticize, let it be directed at their actions rather than their personality. 7. Do not constantly demonstrate your superiority over others. In this way, you will only make enemies. If you want to be friends with people, let them feel their own significance around you. 8. Always acknowledge your own mistakes and guilt – and apologize.

Every Woman's Dream

No matter how you look at it, the dream of any woman is to have someone beside her for whom she is the meaning of life. The best and most familiar scent of her man is not that of expensive perfume, but the scent of calmness, confidence, protection, care, love, and true masculine tenderness.

How to Recognize Lies?

1. A lie is always an interaction between two people. When talking to someone, try to understand if they have the intention to deceive you. Without intention, there is no lie! 2. A person always lies after your actions or questions. Lies are always secondary! 3. While communicating with someone, observe the changes in their behavior. When a person lies, psychophysiological changes occur in the body, and we can see them.

How to Recognize Lies?

4. Observe more – speak less. A person who talks cannot see the lies of their interlocutor! 5. When a person lies, adrenaline is released in their body. The released adrenaline leads to changes throughout the body. These changes cause the entire organism to work differently: face, body, vocal cords, breathing. 6. A liar always experiences fear – the fear of being caught. Fear is always manifested in thoughts, words, and deeds.

How to Recognize Lies?

7. American scientists have found that the unconscious, which is reflected in gestures and body movements, is responsible for truth, while only words are used for lies. Learn to see contradictions between words and body language. 8. When a person tells the truth, they are relaxed. When lying, they are always tense. 9. The liar’s problem is in the details. If we start asking questions about details, in most cases, we will always identify the liar. Do not live by the principle: 'It's not hard to deceive me - I am glad to be deceived.'

Why complicate everything?

Have you ever noticed how much the relationship between two people deteriorates when someone constantly checks the phone and rummages through the belongings of their loved one? In reality, it’s silly. Whoever wants to leave will leave, whoever wants a second or third one will take it no matter what, and it will be almost impossible to suspect this, because we are all great actors.

The Importance of Hugs

Every person needs physical touch to feel good. Of course, there are exceptional states, such as monasticism or a person's retreat from worldly life into solitude. But there, in fact, a person is not so lonely, experiencing the embrace of another, more subtle, intangible, spiritual matter. Let's not dwell on that for now. A simple earthly hug is meant to help one another, to transfer strength and, at the same time, to receive it to the same extent. Often, we can't find the words to express our feelings, but a hug explains everything without words and puts everything in its place. Hugs are a language, rich and intimate, not inferior to the speeches of kisses, rather complementing them with another, irreplaceable shade.

The Importance of Hugs

A hug alleviates pain, eases one's fate (if it's not difficult?), and prevents fears. A person supported by a friend's hug is protected from falling into despair. It's no coincidence there's a saying: "The best place to fall is into arms." Hugs from family and friends warm you for a long time, as if you’re covered in a soft, cozy, and warm blanket. Imagine – hugs are the subject of research in a special section of clinical psychology. Back in the 1970s, it was established that hugs increase the level of endorphins in the human body – natural pain relievers produced by the nervous system and brain.

What does a hug give to a person?

It is said that each of us needs 4 hugs a day to survive, 8 to feel loved, and 12 to become a real person... Of course, the numbers can be disputed, but what matters here is the principle, not the numbers. So, what does a hug provide? 1. Courage. It's very interesting to observe how contests happen behind the scenes. Today, it's common to place cameras everywhere, including backstage. Each contestant is hugged by their mentor, parents, or friends before going on stage. Through a hug, they convey confidence: "Everything will be fine, you can do it, you're ready, I'm with you, you're not alone."

What do hugs give to a person?

2. Strength. Energy is transmitted through a hug. When a person is alone, they feel that their strength is exhausted. A person needs reinforcement, a doping called "courage", which is contained in hugs. 3. Health. A hug can heal broken hearts, and for this, you don't need to go to a doctor for a prescription. 4. Information. It is simple, clear, and extremely necessary for everyone. By hugging, we say without words: "I know you, believe in you, appreciate you, and want everything to be well for you".

What does a hug give a person?

5. Protection. Feeling protected is necessary for every individual. This is especially important for children and the elderly. They are the most defenseless people. 6. Confidence. Besides the 'courage' booster, everyone needs the lubricant called 'self-confidence'. If we don’t support and encourage each other, how can we move forward in life? We can't. Hugs help to gain the necessary confidence. Bringing joy to each other, supporting, protecting, inspiring by hugging - this makes life much better, easier, and... kinder.

How to stop being offended?

When I stopped being offended, people stopped offending me. You might say: that doesn't happen. How can one not be offended when touched on a sensitive spot? If one understands the origins of offense, I believe there will be no reason to be offended. So, what is it within us that doesn't allow us to forgive? To forgive means not to leave a trace of bitterness in your soul, to continue communicating freely with a person. Or, if you prefer, not to communicate at all, but at the same time not to recall them harshly, that is, to remain neutral.

How to Stop Being Offended?

Wounded pride. Not appreciated as we wanted, or simply unjustly accused. But we know we're not that bad. So we torment ourselves with thoughts and curses aimed at the offender. We 'gnaw' at our soul, assuring ourselves of our righteousness. But is it worth proving the obvious to ourselves? I think we all agree that it's a pointless endeavor. Everyone knows their own worth. To the one who judged you, you can simply say, "I'm sorry you think of me this way," "I'm upset that we didn't understand each other." And definitely don't lower your self-esteem.

How to stop being offended?

Pride. Try to set aside the feeling of superiority and take your partner's side. Remember: a person's strength is not in pride, but in generosity. The offender generally realizes himself that he was hasty.

How to Stop Being Offended?

Inability to accept facts about oneself. For example, you are told: "You are late for work. You made a mistake. You are in a bad mood. You eat a lot. You are overweight." You get angry, unwilling to accept reality. Learn to respond with 'yes'. The same 'yes' applies to any reproaches towards you. Do you think your interlocutor will be interested in 'stinging' you, and how long will they last if you agree with everything?